Score One for Ultimate Success

 

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This month I’ve been sharing with you a little bit about how stress and overwhelm impact your brain and your body.

But did you know how stress is robbing you of your ultimate success?When you’re stressed – even small, seemingly insignificant amounts of stress – your body goes on alert. Good stress primes you for getting things done. It gets your body ready for action so that when you press the “go” button, you’re off and running.

But there’s another kind of stress that’s eating away at your health, your gifts and talents, your peace of mind, and your real success. This kind of stress is cumulative. And it’s sneaky. It’s hideously invasive, and you often don’t even know how prevalent it is, because has become the “norm” in your life.

I’m talking about the daily grind of life. Get up, get to work, get the kids, make sure everything at the office is done on time and to perfection. Come home, grab groceries, pick up the kids again, get dinner on the table while doing homework. Rush off again or grab dinner on the run because there’s just no time for a real dinner because it’s time for soccer (or piano lessons, or gymnastics, or… fill in the blank here).

The clock is ticking and there’s traffic everywhere. You’re on a deadline and it never fails, but that someone or something somewhere is slowing you down.

And when you finally get home, there’s still housework, laundry, STUFF to do before you can finally drop, dead-tired, into bed for 5-6 hours of restless sleep so you can do it all over again.

Feels kind of frenetic, doesn’t it? And yet, that’s how we live!

Your experience might be a little different, based on what phase of life you’re in, but you get the idea. Trying to stuff 20 pounds of life experience into a 5-pound bag! It’s exhausting! And it takes a toll.

The daily stress we inflict on ourselves may even be masking a different kind of stress – an even bigger stress – that may have happened earlier in your life that is unresolved.

In my work, I see thousands of clients who had significant life events that created some type of real trauma. Bullying, abuse, death of a loved one, witnessing or experiencing violence, experiencing a significant health crisis, are just a few of the things I work with my clients on a daily basis.

Most of the time, these big events haven’t been dealt with properly – or even at all, and so the daily stresses just add to what’s already there. It all begins to pile up.

You see, when you experience a big life event that creates emotional pain, and you don’t know how to handle it, you create stories about the how’s and why’s. Those stories were created to help you survive the incident intact, so you could just get through it.

These stories take on a life and meaning of their own. Here are some of the underlying themes:

  • I’m not good enough.
  • Life is hard.
  • I’m never supported and never really get what I want.
  • God loves others more.
  • I will always have to struggle.
  • I just can’t do it.
  • Something is wrong with me

Perhaps you can to relate to some or all of these – and these are just a few of the condensed stories that people tell themselves.

Your life stories become beliefs. And those beliefs shape your world.  They shape your body and health. They shape how you interact with others. They shape how willing you are to risk being true and authentic as yourself in the world, and how safe it is to be the REAL you.

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So if you have a big mission, or a small one, or aren’t sure what your “mission” is, but feel something awakening in you that is anxious or afraid to play full out, you can bet that one or more of these limiting stories and beliefs are sabotaging your ultimate success. And creating vast amounts of stress in your life.

When you unconsciously choose to play small, especially if you are designed to play in a bigger way, it creates an enormous amount of resentment, frustration and stress because you know there’s something more. You know it. You want it. It’s not happening. And that creates more stress.

Your soul is pushing you. Somewhere inside of you, you have a dream. A big one. And it doesn’t want to wait. It wants to be expressed NOW.

So you start marketing your services. You step into the lime-light….and all you hear is crickets. Or worse, you feel rejected. Or like a failure. That’s even worse, because now, your fears feel like they’re being realized.

score one for success quantum soul clearing.com quoteSo you start shutting down and backing away. Or you start furiously do-do-doing so that you feel like you’re at least DOING SOMETHING. You take a step forward and another step back. It’s becomes an exhausting cha-cha life dance, that makes you feel stuck. It drains your dream, because it feels like you can’t get any traction. You begin to despair.

I know, because I’ve danced that dance too. Frankly, it sucked.

And at the core of the problem was stress that was created from the mistaken beliefs and stories I was telling myself. They weren’t true. But I believed they were.

Come join me on July 26th for a complimentary webinar where I will be sharing some of the tools I’ve learned to help eliminate these beliefs and the un-necessary stress they were creating in my life. Let me help you release some of your stress so that you can feel better, be healthier, and be more successful.

Here’s the link to join me!

http://quantumsoulclearing.com/destresswebinar

What is True Freedom?

What is Freedom? From Quantum Soul ClearingThis weekend on July 4th, the United States celebrates 240 years of independence from England.  That bloody Revolutionary War sparked by the injustices the early Colonial settlers experienced, changed the course of history and birthed America from an English penal colony to a fledgling country of its own.  The founding fathers of this country created the first experiment of democracy since the classical Greek societies in 600 B.C.

Today many Americans – as well as citizens in other countries throughout the world – proclaim their freedom.  Freedom to think for themselves.  Freedom to vote.  Freedom to live a certain life-style. Freedom to worship the way that person chooses without the fear of retribution or even death.  This template of freedom was ignited on that day when the Declaration of Independence was signed here in America.

But is that really true?  Are we truly free – or have we traded perceived security for some form of subjugation?  Are our minds, our thoughts, our actions free from old, outdated beliefs that keep us entrapped and unhappy?  Are our emotions being hijacked by the media, by fear, by anything?  To whom or what have we allowed our independence and sovereignty to be eroded and outright hijacked?

5802012 - old fashionet american constitution with usa  flag.In the U.S. Declaration of Independence, signed on July 4, 1776, our forefathers stated: (Bold italics are mine.)

“When in the Course of human Events, it becomes necessary for one People to dissolve the Political Bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the Powers of the Earth, the separate and equal Station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God entitle them, a decent Respect to the Opinions of Mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the Separation. We hold these Truths to be self-evident, that all Men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness—That to secure these Rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just Powers from the Consent of the Governed, that whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these Ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its Foundation on such Principles, and organizing its Powers in such Form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient Causes; and accordingly all Experience hath shewn, that Mankind are more disposed to suffer, while Evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the Forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long Train of Abuses and Usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object, evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their Right, it is their Duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future Security. Such has been the patient Sufferance of these Colonies; and such is now the Necessity which constrains them to alter their former Systems of Government. The History of the present King of Great-Britain is a History of repeated Injuries and Usurpations, all having in direct Object the Establishment of an absolute Tyranny over these States. To prove this, let Facts be submitted to a candid World…” 

You can read the entire Declaration of Independence here: https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/USCIS/Office%20of%20Citizenship/Citizenship%20Resource%20Center%20Site/Publications/PDFs/M-654.pdf

I love this Declaration of Independence.  It inspires me.  It makes me think.  It teaches me to be a better, stronger person.  It basically says, “We will no longer tolerate the injustice of this situation.  And we are choosing sovereignty, rather than continuing to live under abuses and despotism!”

Ironically, 240 years later, we see very similar situations of tyranny in our own country by the very government that was designed to protect our liberties and right to happiness.  Our government seems to have gone amuck.  How have we allowed this to happen if this government is “We the People, Of the People, By the People and For the People?”

Everywhere is the evidence that our government officials have been bought, and have sold out, to the interests of big business, big pharma, and big agriculture.  But this article isn’t about whining and complaining about it and doing nothing.  Even though most of us have no idea how to repair such a broken, corrupt system that cares too blatantly little for the will of the people it governs.

Could it be that the answers lie within each and every one of us? Could it be that we may even be experiencing similar energies in our own lives?  Is our government reflecting our inner experiences to us in profound 3-D Technicolor ways?  The fact is, we may even be our own abuser, our own oppressor, our own tyrant!

Because there is so much bombardment lately, perhaps you feel overwhelmed and hopeless to make any changes.  But I disagree with that belief.  I believe that we are far more powerful than we give ourselves credit for!

18666589_sI believe that as we change within ourselves the old, entrenched belief systems that are being reflected in our outer world, we have not just the right, but the responsibility to do something about it.  And it starts with us!  It starts by looking within and being willing to make changes.

Because we are all connected through the collective conscious (or unconscious, as the case may be!), everything we are experiencing is impacting the country we live in and the entire planet.  We are not separate.  We are one humanity with the same expectations, needs and desires for something better.  Something greater than ourselves.

There is a great deal of hate speech being spouted here in the U.S. and around the world.  It seems like everybody is feeling hateful about something.  But where do you feel hateful feelings within or about yourself?

What part of your body do you despise?  Is it your thighs, your jiggly arms, your not-so-flat belly, your freckles, your aging skin, your hair, your breasts, your toes, your legs, or your backside?  Why?  Who says these things are not absolutely perfect?  (Hint:  It might be the media and Big Business!)

What part of your life do you absolutely hate – and cannot or will not tolerate? Is there something you simply cannot get past?  Some real or perceived hurt or harm you’ve experienced or been on the receiving end?  Do you dread going to work every day because it feels like you are either giving away a part of your soul or it is being stolen from you? (Hint: It might be old messages from old religious or social patterning.)

What hate-speech are you perpetrating on yourself?  Do you tell yourself you’re stupid, not good enough, not beautiful enough, just not enough – period?  Do you hear the voices of someone in your past telling you you’re ugly or fat, selfish or horrible?  And have you taken on those voices and joined the “choir?”  (Hint:  It might be that bully or rival from childhood or critical parent.)

Do you punish yourself mercilessly for over-eating, by spending hours at the gym?  Numb out with food, drugs, TV, sex, shopping or other addictions to avoid just how much pain you’re really in, because you just don’t know any other coping skills?  What do YOU want to build a wall around so that you can keep something that you perceive as unpleasant out of your life? What part of you needs to be reclaimed and reintegrated with love? (Hint:  This might be self-hatred, or fear of the unknown trying to control your life.)

Are you punishing yourself needless for any past-life “transgressions” that you no longer have any control over (the past is the PAST – there’s no going back, only forgiveness!) by being over-spiritual or over-giving? (Hint:  This might involve some deep soul-clearing work.)

What are you trying to control?  Yourself?  Others?  Certain situations or circumstances that you really have no control over?

Where are you betraying yourself?  How might you be a traitor to your true beliefs or desires in order to keep an imagined peace?

If what areas have you become so intolerant or judgmental of yourself or others that even the slightest infractions of behavior send your blood pressure and emotions sky-rocketing out of control?

5676633 - united states declaration of independenceIf you have answered “yes” to any of these questions – or if these questions have triggered any other “ah-ha’s” for you, I believe it’s time for your own personal Declaration of Independence.

It’s time to take a stand for yourself.  For higher principles.  For greater love and compassion for yourself and for others.  I believe we are all just doing the best we can in a world in which the energetic and emotional heat is being turned up.

There’s an agenda that is designed to keep us enslaved to the status quo.  Fighting ourselves and one another.  Keeping us embroiled and agitated so that all we see are our differences and not our true similarities.  It’s a way to control us and we’re buying into it.  It’s time to opt out!

Here’s a version of my own Declaration of Independence I’m adopting for myself this year.  It’s a reminder to myself that I truly am a sovereign Being of the planet and of the Universe.  And that as that Sovereign Being – that Divine Sovereign Being with inalienable rights granted to me by a loving and compassionate Creator – I am responsible for creating my own reality.

I am responsible for the energy I put out in the world.  I am responsible for the words I speak the either agitate people to violence, hurt someone and make them doubt themselves, or inspire others to greatness.

I am responsible for how I treat myself, and for breaking out of old, entrained patterns that were established more than half a century ago, that I have old recently become aware of.  These old patterns are no longer in alignment with who I am today.  So I believe that it’s time for my own personal revolution.  What about you?  Will you join me?

When in the Course of my evolutionary human existence, it becomes necessary that I, as an evolving, conscious Human Being, have needs to dissolve the emotional, mental, physical, spiritual and financial Bands which have chained me to myself or with any others in ways that are limiting, disabling, and karmically unsustainable; and to assume the Powers of Heaven and Earth, the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God which entitle ME a conscious separation from the pain and suffering I have been inflicting on myself or others. 

I hold these Truths to be self-evident, that I – and all Human Beings – are created beautifully, powerfully, joyously and freely.  That we are endowed by and with our Creator’s Consciousness, with certain Unalienable Rights. That among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness.  That to secure these Rights, I now mandate that I am Self-Aware and Self-Governing.  It is MY Right – and the right of all People – to alter or to abolish destructive and limiting beliefs, thoughts and practices, and to institute new Personal, conscientious Governance, in order to create and effect my Individual Safety, Authority, Prosperity and Happiness.

I have long-endured almost unendurable harshness because I thought I had no choice, and no power to change.  Indeed, I didn’t recognize the maltreatments because they were simply part of my formerly unconscious life.  But When the long Train of Abuses and forcible seizure of my personal power and free will, either by myself or others, which are designed to reduce me completely under absolute oppression, coercion, authoritarianism and domination, it is My Right, it is My Duty, to throw off such Governance, and to provide new Guards and Standards for my future Security, Safety and Happiness. It is now necessary through my deeper understanding of my Greater Soul Self, which compels me to alter my personal beliefs and personal governances.  Because of the tyranny these old beliefs, thoughts and actions have had over my Being, as a sovereign Being of the Universe, I choose joy, freedom, the pursuit of my soul’s purpose, beauty, enlightenment and ONENESS over all else…”

843292 - j. edgar hoover fbi building, washington dc, usaI love this awakening and evolutionary – even revolutionary – time we are in.  Although it may be a little overwhelming, stressful, and scary, it’s also exhilarating, powerful, and OURS!

This is a pivotal time in history for humanity, both collectively and personally.  Never before in recorded history have we had the opportunity for so much personal freedom – or so much to lose.  So much understanding of our place in the Universe.  So much raw opportunity to become and embody the completely Divine Expression that we are designed to be.

Here’s to true freedom.  Yours and mine.  The freedom to be whatever and whomever you wish to be!  Happy 4th of July!

Lessons on Dealing with Catastrophe and Craziness

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The last few months have been FULL of unexpected stuff!  Surgeries, lots of traveling, extended and delayed travel plans, family health issues, a flooded house, complete moves, you name it!

It hasn’t been easy.  Some of it hasn’t been very fun, either.

But what I have found to be so interesting, is how much I am learning to take it all in stride!

One thing that has made such a profound difference in my life is my daily Quantum Soul Clearing practice. It’s a daily practical and spiritual practice that I have dedicated myself to do to experience and become the change I want to see and have.

Sorcha Bray, a dear friend of mine, and I actually started the practice while I was in Denver waiting for my husband’s surgery to be approved.  At the time, I was losing my mind with frustration, exhaustion, and all the negative energy that came with initially being in a really awful extended stay hotel, and under the stress of trying to do it all and still do more.

I was watching our savings being virtually sucked out of our bank account with the costs of being out of town for so much longer than expected, and the stress of watching my husband deal with being in so much pain. Besides, I had an agenda!  We were going to go, get his surgery and get back home!

Except that wasn’t happening.  At all.

Thank goodness for Dennis’s cousins that took pity on us and invited us to stay at their home!  It was a complete Godsend.  It was great to be able to reconnect and spend valuable time with them.  It was also an additional stressor of being out of my comfort zone – still hanging on to my agenda – and worrying about whether we were over-staying our welcome.

And it was more opportunity for clearing!

hands-1121205_1280The last 10 days of December I shared what Sorcha and I were doing on a daily basis.  We offered a free gift of daily clearing work to my community.  I absolutely LOVED the response and the   movement that it created not just for me, but for everyone involved!

It never fails to amaze me just how much shtuff, unresolved emotional STUFF, I’ve stuffed and just how much that shtuff has been running my thought  processes and feelings!  It is truly stunning.  Things that I had no conscious idea were still impacting my life have been bubbling to the surface,  now that “they  know” there’s a way to be expressed and released fully and safely!  Feelings that got triggered from everyday events re-activated those  buried emotions, and brought  them up to get cleared.

For example, just the other night, my husband was initiated into a really lovely service organization.  He asked me to go, not knowing that because I wasn’t a member, I really wasn’t invited.  So, when I was very politely asked to leave while they went through their initiation ceremony ritual, I got really uncomfortable!  But I wasn’t sure why I was feeling that way.

Apparently I have a very vivid imagination – or perhaps it’s an effect of the news, social media, movies or past life historical memories.  I don’t really know.  As I was leaving, my mind started thinking of all the awful things that they might do to him. I was even imagining some weird micro-chipping ritual, anal probing, or brain washing.  You know, something really satanical or even alien abduction weird!  (Did I mention my vivid imagination?)

Then I had all this guilt come up that I was saving myself and leaving my loved one behind.  I was a wreck!  You can laugh.  I am laughing now too, while writing about it.  But at the time, if felt very real!  Which is what old stories that are submerged in our subconscious feel like!!

awareness-1052371_1280But the truth was, it was all from unresolved, past life, karmic shtuff!  Yes, Karmage!  That unresolved karmic garbage that was creating all kinds of emotional damage in this lifetime!

I called Sorcha and said, “Holy crap!  This is SOOO it for me!  We really need to clear this!”

When we opened up the field and I was able to completely examine my feelings and the emotional frequencies that were being triggered, I was shocked at everything that came up.  Previous lifetime memories of some pretty traumatic things.  Feeling excluded and left out in this lifetime.  Abuse energies, panic energies, survivor guilt frequencies, and so much more!

But after going through the process and feeling the relief of letting the past and all those energies go, I can’t begin to express how much better and clearer I feel.  I even woke up early the next morning – and every morning since then! – with renewed energy and excitement to share this work with you and others.

I don’t know what you might be dealing with in your life right now.  But I do know from personal experience that the Quantum Soul Clearing Process can help you work through it, completely.  You do not have to suffer or feel stuck any more.

You can feel immediate relief from just one clearing session.  But the long-term effects of dedicated clearing and coaching work are profound!  And the implications of doing this kind of work on an on-going basis are far-reaching.  I love having the peace of mind and soul that come from being able to work through these, and any and all crazy situations.  It gives me a feeling of empowerment.  Isn’t that exactly what everyone is looking for?

You know, I spent years feeling awful.  I lived in constant emotional, mental, and physical pain.  I felt anxious and sick inside.  I spent most of my precious life force energy just trying to protect myself from more pain, because the underlying pain was so intense I had no idea how to get through some days.  Perhaps you can relate?

Other days, I could get through and pretend that everything was all right.  But I was still physically exhausted and felt like a failure, because I didn’t feel good about myself inside.

It was the stories my mind kept telling itself that triggered the feelings that were creating that pain.  They were draining my energy and creating illness, depression, chaos, and financial disaster in all areas of my life.

But once I was willing to acknowledge those feelings and the subsequent stories that I was telling myself – and then CLEAR THEM OUT, because they weren’t true! – I felt immediately better.  And the circumstances of my life also started changing.

I started telling myself new, empowered stories that have ultimately led to being an international best-selling author of my book, Quantum Soul Clearing – Healing the Scars Life Leaves on the Soul. 

And you can feel better, too.

zen-1076850_1280Is it easy?  Yes and no. The QSC process is a very simple process.   If you’re like me, you probably have spent a lifetime protecting your fragile vulnerabilities, because you haven’t known what to do or how to heal.  I mean, who loves to feel anxious, afraid, angry, jealous or betrayed again?  Not me!  And probably not you.  Is it easy or fun when we feel vulnerable?  NO!

But it is far easier to know there’s an end in sight.  To finally feel the feelings, knowing that once you let them go, it’s OVER!  To allow yourself to feel vulnerable one last time, knowing that you don’t have to stay in that horrible feeling place any more.  That there is hope and healing available is a wonderful relief!

It is a comfort and so empowering to know that the next time you feel negative, painful feelings, (some things are so big, with so many layers, sometimes it takes a while to work through it), you’ll know what to do, and you’ll have the tools to resolve it!

The Quantum Soul Clearing Process is very simple.  It’s easy to do.  It is extremely effective.  And it works each and every time!

So what are you waiting for?  Are you ready to really live and feel amazing?  Are you ready to reach your goals, live freely and empowered to achieve all that you really want to achieve?

In order to create anything, you have to take action.  Book a private session with me.  Let’s talk.  Let’s figure out where you want to go and how to get you there.

Let’s get you feeling better.  Let’s get you unstuck and back on target for what you really want to accomplish.  You deserve a big breakthrough! 2016 is poised to be your most productive, heart-195147_1280most delicious and amazing year yet!

During the month of February, I’m offering a special on my private coaching sessions.  Single sessions are $500 and a series of three are $1,250.  Click here to get started.  Or if you have questions, email my team at Service@QuantumSoulClearing.com.  My team and I are here to help!

 

What to Do If You Don’t Feel Thankful

Here in the US we will be celebrating Thanksgiving this week.  It’s an opportunity to count your blessings and give thanks for all the bounty you have received throughout the year.

But what if you don’t really feel thankful?  What if life has thrown a curve ball your way and knocked you off center? Or what if you don’t have family or close friends nearby to spend holiday with?  Then what?

In many spiritual communities, we’ve been taught to never acknowledge anything negative.  “Just think of the next highest thought.”  “Change your thoughts and create something different.” “Never dwell on the negative.”

Much easier said than done!  Especially when you’re smack dab in the middle of feeling awful!

So what do you do when you don’t feel happy, thankful, or peaceful inside?  What do you do when your current life experience is sucking your peace of mind away faster than you can rebuild it?

I found myself in just this circumstance last week.  Nothing was really WRONG, but it wasn’t RIGHT, either!  I was feeling an odd lassitude that was definitely draining my energy and blocking any feelings of happiness, thankfulness or peace of mind!  I felt like I was spinning into a black hole of unhappiness and depression.

I have personally found that trying to just ignore the feeling or the problem just doesn’t work!  I want the issue resolved NOW, and my mind just will NOT let the problem go!

autumn_daySo here’s what I found works best for me – and it’s working for my private clients, too: Allow yourself to feel ALL the feelings! Without judgment and without limiting them.

That’s right!  Just allow yourself to feel the fear, the pain, the resentment, whatever it is!  It’s there to be acknowledged, and to tell you something!

That unpleasant feeling is letting you know that something is out of balance.  That something isn’t right for you

Your boundaries may be being violated.  Your soul is letting you know that the circumstances are not completely in alignment with who you really are!  Or old programming might be coming up to be healed.

What I wasn’t initially very thankful for – the feelings of frustration and irritation, that my needs were not being met – was an incredible opportunity for some powerful, deep inner work to heal and clear some very old, nasty programming from my childhood!

It took some time, but what I realized is that I had a deeply set pattern of trying to fix things for everyone, except myself – and then feeling resentful and angry that no one was there for me! 

On top of that program was feeling and being disempowered to help myself – having to ask permission and never receiving it!  And underneath that was not being my own authority, always having to look to someone else for my validation and well-being! 

Pretty nasty energy!  But by allowing myself to simply follow the feeling trail, and write down all the stuff that kept coming up, I was able to use the Quantum Soul Clearing Process to eliminate the old program and resolve those negative feelings.

Today I woke up feeling lighter, more centered; much more excited about life.  I have an opportunity to help others feel the same way through the work that I do.  I am so thankful and optimistic about that!

As I look at what is happening in the world – all the terrorist attacks, the chaos and craziness that are seemingly everywhere – I realize more than ever, this work is so desperately needed! 

What if we could get this powerful process to those who feel like the only option is violence?  What if they could experience the peace of mind and empowerment that comes from healing and transforming that inner pain that believes the only way to be heard and acknowledged is through creating pain and suffering for others?  Just imagine the difference that could make! 

But more than anything else, what I wish for you during the upcoming holiday season, is peace.  Peace of mind.  The space to follow the bread-crumb trail of your feelings so you, too, can get to the core of whatever energy is draining your peace of mind, creativity, self-love and joy.

Take some time to reflect on what you’re thankful for this season.  If you find you’re having trouble feeling thankful, know that you’re not alone, and you’re not wrong. 

autumn_journalCarve out some time to journal your honest feelings and do some clearing work if needed!  I promise you it is worth it, even it is painful.  But wouldn’t you rather address the cause and the core now, than continue to live with that unrelenting unhappiness?  I know I would!

If you need help getting to the core of the feelings, please reach out.  Don’t stay stuck one more minute than needed! I’m here to help in any way I can.  I’d love to support you!  Let’s set up an appointment to play and work.

I want to express my thankfulness for you, my friend.  I am thankful for your desire to be all that you are designed by Source to BE!  I’m thankful we are connected and have the opportunity to make this world a much better place.

Wishing you a wonderful Thanksgiving, and the launch of the season of Light!

Are Your Resisting Change? I Have Too.

What a miraculous time we live in.  Every day there are new inventions, new ways of thinking, new things to learn.  Everything is changing!

Sometimes that change can feel a little overwhelming, though.  Even if it’s good.

I have a confession to make:  I haven’t always done change very well.  I often go kicking and screaming (sometimes literally!), and with a great deal of resistance.

Of course, that resistance only causes greater pain and frustration, but hey,
old habits die hard.  Right?  But do they really have to?

I have experienced profound changes in the last few weeks.  It’s like the Universe has given me the opportunity to purge all kinds of old programming and fear that I wasn’t even consciously aware of that was living inside of me.

It’s been a roller-coaster ride that I wasn’t sure I would survive without going completely insane.

It’s one of the reasons I haven’t put out a newsletter for that last two months, because I wasn’t sure I really had anything valuable to share with you!  That might have been my shadow, but it felt hypocritical trying to spout something positive when I was feeling anything but!

What I have learned in the last few weeks is how to let go. Of everything.  Of my need to control situations.  The need to control the outcome of my business, my life, my health, my family… of everything!

I’ll admit, Divine surrender hasn’t come easily.  I’ve resisted letting go. And I have another confession to make:  I’m a newly recovering control freak.

It’s tough to own up to something like that.  It doesn’t sound pretty or nice.  And it really isn’t.  I used the excuse for control that the buck stopped here with me. And it did.

But always being in control is exhausting.  And painful.  And lonely.  It strains relationships.  It stresses our health.  It damages our self-worth and self-esteem, because, let’s face it, if you aren’t always in control, there’s really something wrong with you.  At least that was my underlying core belief.

OK I can only speak for myself, but that’s what my inner committee kept telling me.  It’s really a recipe for madness, illness and unhappiness.

So here’s some of the life-lessons I have learned as a recovering control freak, as I have learned to just let go of control:

What I’ve found in letting go, is inner peace.  I realized that I’m no longer responsible for healing and saving the world.  (Yeah, that was really never my real job, but, hey!  I tried!)

Inner peace is exquisite!  I never knew just how valuable it really is!  Or just how good it feels.  For a control junky, it’s a new and powerful feeling and experience that I wish everyone could experience – but it’s truly an inside job.

Teaching is one of my major life paths.  It brings me immense joy to show and teach others what I’ve learned.  I love it when I can share my life lessons and the wisdom I’ve learned from my struggles, to help others and provide a short cut to their own growth and personal happiness.

I’ve learned that it’s not my responsibility. If what I’m teaching or sharing it doesn’t resonate with someone, or if they don’t implement it for themselves, it’s not my responsibility.  It’s theirs.  I don’t have to try to control or be responsible for their outcome.  They get to choose for themselves.  Wow!  What a relief that insight was!  lol

I’ve found a new, deeper connection within myself to the Divine.  That deep connection makes me happy and I feel content with myself and my life purpose.

I’ve learned how to simply let my fears wash through me, uncontrolled, terrifying and unbounded, while tears roll down my face and my sobs of terror echo around me.  It feels liberating to know that I didn’t dissolve into nothingness, or madness – or even die, like that inner committee suggested would happen.

In fact, allowing the fear to completely swamp me, gave me a new perspective on my life.  It allowed me to understand just how strong and resilient I truly am.  It gave me something I’ve never fully experienced before.

I’m not completely sure what it is called, other than Pure Presence.  Or possibly Alignment.  But it is exquisite.

Was the experience of being bombarded by my fears scary and overwhelming?  Yes.  For a few minutes.  And when it finally washed through me, it left me feeling peaceful and whole.  I wish I’d done that process years ago!  I could have saved myself untold hours of anguish and pain.

I’m quite sure I will experience fear again – possibly even terror.  It’s part of life.  Like joy, and excitement.  Like love and pain.  But this time, I welcome it.  Because it’s trying to tell me something about myself.

As we allow ALL of our feelings to fully manifest, they no longer have the power to control us.

By allowing ourselves to feel the guilt until it loses its vicious grip on our minds and bodies, we emerge into self-love and self-acceptance.

By allowing ourselves to fully feel our fears and vulnerabilities until they finally let go of us, we free ourselves to experience inner peace and contentment.

When we allow ourselves to feel and experience the full range of human emotion – without judgment! – we give ourselves permission to fully live, expand, evolve and grow.

I’m positive there’s so much more to learn about letting go and creating healthy boundaries.  But what an adventure!  What an opportunity for real growth and transformation!

As a recovering control addict, I am sure I’ll have my relapses.  And when I do, I will forgive myself, ask for forgiveness of others and love myself into greater awareness, peacefulness and joy.

After all, isn’t that what we’re all really looking for?

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this subject! Feel free to email me at Michelle@QuantumSoulClearing.com.

 

Freedom. What does that mean to you?

Freedom. What does that mean to you?us_heart

Freedom of speech?

Freedom from tyranny?

Freedom to worship as you wish?

Freedom to love and marry the person of your dreams?

Is it financial freedom?

Freedom from addiction?

Personal liberty?

Something else?

My personal definition of freedom is the freedom to be, do and have what I want, when I want it, and with whom I want it at the time I want it.

Sometimes my experience of life falls a little short of that! <Laughing at myself!> But that is my goal.

For me, though, freedom is not just a definition. It is a feeling. An experience. A frequency. When I think about the energy of freedom I have a feeling of being unfettered in my soul. Of boundless joy and happiness. It’s loving the work that I am designed to do in the world. And it’s having the time and opportunity to spend quality time with my family, friends and those who are important to me. It’s a feeling of expansiveness.

It’s the ability to move my body without pain or restriction – which, honestly, is still a work in progress! But much better than it was 6 months ago – or even 10 years ago.

It’s having a mind that is open to new ideas, and ways of thinking. It’s being able to express my thoughts, feelings and experiences as thoroughly as the English language will allow me.

It’s having the technology and ability to connect with you and thousands of others all over the world and express myself. To share healing, transformation processes, and love in ways that were unimaginable to me 20 or even 10 years ago!

Freedom feels expansive and inclusive of others. It’s knowing that I am strong enough in my personal beliefs and values to allow and respect others people’s core values – without having to challenge them or feeling like I need to change them.

Real freedom is being able to explore painful memories and experiences with compassion and understanding so that those parts of myself can lovingly be integrated and accepted along with the good. In doing so, my life experience is deepened. I can learn and grow from the past, while leaving the patterns of self-negation or judgement that limited my personal freedom, in the past where they belong.

4th_of_julyIn the United States we celebrate our national freedom on July 4th. We celebrate our national pride and freedom that was, historically, won through conflict and sacrifice.

But we know that there are really no winners when it comes to war. Whether that war is between nations, or within ourselves. There is a very high cost, with massive collateral damage.

There is much to be proud of in this country – and there is so much room for improvement. My intention, though, is not necessarily to make a political statement.

It is to bring attention to the energy of freedom. It’s about taking personal action and responsibility to create an inner environment of personal freedom so that your inner and outer expression and interactions are aligned with peace and ultimate freedom of body, mind, and soul.

When we take responsibility and action for healing or transforming our core wounds that have created virtual prisons for ourselves, we become the masters of our lives. As we create freedom within for ourselves, we become more peaceful, loving and tolerant in every area of our lives.

I believe that the true path to personal and global freedom begins within each and every one of us. Until we can free our own hearts, minds and bodies from the limiting beliefs, habits and patterns within us, we will never be truly free. We will always be at the mercy of special interests with agendas that sway public thinking and carve out public policy, as well as to our own habits and addictions.

Until we can stand in clarity and personal awareness of what is optimally highest and best for ourselves, we are unable to come together collectively and stand as one in real truth and freedom for our personal and collective rights.

Everyone on this planet deserves to have clean water, clean air, healthy, organic food, safe shelter, the ability to financially support ourselves and our families, free from war, persecution, and oppression.

I know, some will say that is an unrealistic, naïve, utopian idea. But it is what I believe.

All humans desire something more. We desire unconditional love. We yearn to be seen for who we truly are – and fireworks_smfundamentally acknowledged and understood as individuals. We all have a need and drive to be creative and follow our soul’s calling that is unique to each of us.

Once we strip away the limitations and uncover the core of who we really are, freedom of body, mind and soul is a natural occurrence. It’s our birthright! It’s how we are designed!

This month, as we are inspired by the energies and frequencies of freedom and liberty, I urge you to contemplate what freedom means for you.

Then write down and commit to yourself what you are willing to do (or not do) in order to allow yourself to be ultimately free!

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this subject! Feel free to email me at Michelle@QuantumSoulClearing.com.

Staying Centered During Deeply Troubling Times

I picked up an early morning call from my brother in law on May 1st, asking what the latest news was on Darin. My sleepy brain registered the fact that something wasn’t quite right, but I really had NO idea why he was asking about my step-son.

In response to my questioning, he said, “Apparently, you haven’t heard. Darin was in a terrible motorcycle accident last night and is in ICU.” And with those words, I was wide awake!

I immediately went to find my husband and together we made the call to my daughter-in-law, Jessica, to find out what was happening.

That was when we learned that he was in such critical condition, that doctors didn’t expect him to survive. Needless to say, Jessica was almost hysterical and terrified that she was going to lose her husband.

I found myself automatically checking in with him intuitively, and was told he would be just fine. I worked with Jessica for a little bit to get her calmed down, then went to work on Darin remotely, myself.

Over and over again, I was told by my non-physical teams, “He will be just fine. Do not panic. Do not worry. Hold only positive thoughts for him.”

Somehow I found myself in pure peacefulness, despite the news and despite everything we were being told. At first, I kept checking in with myself to make sure I wasn’t just numbing out and detaching from it all.

I’m usually the one who quickly attaches and gets swept away by all the drama! But this time, it was my job to hold space for all the healing opportunities for him, as well as for the entire family. And that’s just what I did.

I reached out to my friends and community asked for prayers for his healing. I was absolutely blown away by the outpouring I received. Darius Barazandeh, Eram Saeed, and Shefali Burns, some of my telesummit hosts, all added Darin to their community’s prayer circles, effectively connecting with hundreds of thousands of people around the world.

Love and healing offerings began pouring in. Kimberly McGeorge sent a healing audio; hundreds of people in my community sent reiki and other types of remote healing modalities. The responses by people I knew and others who were “strangers” was deeply moving and almost overwhelming.

As the days went by, and there was no real change in his condition. I began to doubt myself, and to question the validity of the information I had received. I tend to be a bit impatient! And I wanted him awake and on the mend immediately!

However, I continued to do my healing work on him remotely, holding space for his ultimate outcome and also holding space for my husband and family to grieve and work through their own feelings.

About a week into his ICU stay, Darin suffered another setback. He started spiking a fever of about 103°F. More tests were run and we found that he had developed pneumonia! Apparently when he had his accident, he aspirated dirt from the road, as well as food and stomach acid from his own body. The result was a raging infection that required specialized IV antibiotics, suctioning his lungs and constant monitoring.

Things looked pretty dark – and still I was told, “He will be OK. Remain calm and continue holding space, and continue sending healing energies.”

Despite the drama paying itself out, I managed to remain centered and calm. I am not sure how I was able to do it. But I had a very clear knowing that he would come out of it.

Then, about two weeks after the accident, Darin started showing signs of waking up. We were cautiously elated, because we weren’t sure just how much damage his brain and body had suffered and what those effects would be.

At first, he was quite disoriented. He couldn’t talk because of the trachea tube they’d inserted to help with the pneumonia. He seemed to recognize Jessica, his wife, but was so exhausted he was only awake for moments at a time.

However, each day, those waking moments lengthened. Within a few days, the doctors did more tests and learned that he was strong enough to have the trachea tube removed, which allowed him to speak.

Throughout this time, I knew that my role was to stay as centered and peaceful as possible, while sending healing energy through me to him. Secondarily, my job was to hold the space for my family members, and help them work through their grief, fears and uncertainties.

The challenge for me as an empath is not getting caught up in the emotions of those around me. And this event was a true test of that!

What I was told by my non-physical teams was that staying out of the drama and holding the vision and space for Darin’s recovery was of paramount importance.

I accomplished this by meditation, daily prayer, and consciously checking in with myself throughout each day to monitor what my thoughts and feelings were.

It was fascinating to me to realize just how much of my husband’s and daughter-in-law’s fears and energies I was absorbing! I had to stop often and clear that fear for us all and purposely send it into the Light for transformation.

If I had allowed that energy to infect me, I could not and would not be able to continue to send healing energy and help Darin to the best of my abilities.

unnamed (2)How many times have you experienced something very challenging in your life? And how many times have your gotten sucked into the energy of the circumstance, only to find yourself spinning and feeling helpless to do anything?

I can honestly say that that used to be my life. I would easily get caught up in the drama of the situation and then I would be unable to be as effective as I could have been.

Going through this experience has taught me a powerful lesson in allowing, not judging, and staying connected and centered. Was it easy? NO!

Was the outcome optimal? YES!

I also learned through this that when you are centered and grounded, Spirit can speak to you very clearly! I VERY CLEARLY was told he would be alright. For the first two weeks, I had remind myself that what appeared to be catastrophic was only temporary. And it was!

At the end of May, Darin was moved to a care facility where they coordinated his rehabilitation and managed his daily care needs until he was strong enough to do so himself.

Then about a week ago, he was released to go home! Talk about a miracle! The doctors didn’t hold out much hope in the beginning.

Darin still has quite a ways to go until he’s back to his original strength, but we are absolutely delighted with the progress that has been made so far. He’s already talking about getting back to work, and we have to remind him that this is his time to heal.

I admire his desire to be productive. And I also know from personal experience that it is imperative to allow yourself the time to heal, body, mind and soul from traumatic experiences.

If you are facing any kind of challenging experience, hopefully you can draw on my experience here.

Drop into your belly area, refuse to get drawn into the chaos and confusion of the moment, and start aligning with your SELF and with Source, so that you can receive clear guidance and direction.

That alignment will help you create miracles of all kinds in your life and the lives of your loved ones!

I picked up an early morning call from my brother in law on May 1st, asking what the latest news was on Darin. My sleepy brain registered the fact that something wasn’t quite right, but I really had NO idea why he was asking about my step-son.

In response to my questioning, he said, “Apparently, you haven’t heard. Darin was in a terrible motorcycle accident last night and is in ICU.” And with those words, I was wide awake!

I immediately went to find my husband and together we made the call to my daughter-in-law, Jessica, to find out what was happening.

That was when we learned that he was in such critical condition, that doctors didn’t expect him to survive. Needless to say, Jessica was almost hysterical and terrified that she was going to lose her husband.

I found myself automatically checking in with him intuitively, and was told he would be just fine. I worked with Jessica for a little bit to get her calmed down, then went to work on Darin remotely, myself.

Over and over again, I was told by my non-physical teams, “He will be just fine. Do not panic. Do not worry. Hold only positive thoughts for him.”

Somehow I found myself in pure peacefulness, despite the news and despite everything we were being told. At first, I kept checking in with myself to make sure I wasn’t just numbing out and detaching from it all.

I’m usually the one who quickly attaches and gets swept away by all the drama! But this time, it was my job to hold space for all the healing opportunities for him, as well as for the entire family. And that’s just what I did.

I reached out to my friends and community asked for prayers for his healing. I was absolutely blown away by the outpouring I received. Darius Barazandeh, Eram Saeed, and Shefali Burns, some of my telesummit hosts, all added Darin to their community’s prayer circles, effectively connecting with hundreds of thousands of people around the world.

Love and healing offerings began pouring in. Kimberly McGeorge sent a healing audio; hundreds of people in my community sent reiki and other types of remote healing modalities. The responses by people I knew and others who were “strangers” was deeply moving and almost overwhelming.

As the days went by, and there was no real change in his condition. I began to doubt myself, and to question the validity of the information I had received. I tend to be a bit impatient! And I wanted him awake and on the mend immediately!

However, I continued to do my healing work on him remotely, holding space for his ultimate outcome and also holding space for my husband and family to grieve and work through their own feelings.

About a week into his ICU stay, Darin suffered another setback. He started spiking a fever of about 103°F. More tests were run and we found that he had developed pneumonia! Apparently when he had his accident, he aspirated dirt from the road, as well as food and stomach acid from his own body. The result was a raging infection that required specialized IV antibiotics, suctioning his lungs and constant monitoring.

Things looked pretty dark – and still I was told, “He will be OK. Remain calm and continue holding space, and continue sending healing energies.”

Despite the drama paying itself out, I managed to remain centered and calm. I am not sure how I was able to do it. But I had a very clear knowing that he would come out of it.

Then, about two weeks after the accident, Darin started showing signs of waking up. We were cautiously elated, because we weren’t sure just how much damage his brain and body had suffered and what those effects would be.

At first, he was quite disoriented. He couldn’t talk because of the trachea tube they’d inserted to help with the pneumonia. He seemed to recognize Jessica, his wife, but was so exhausted he was only awake for moments at a time.

However, each day, those waking moments lengthened. Within a few days, the doctors did more tests and learned that he was strong enough to have the trachea tube removed, which allowed him to speak.

Throughout this time, I knew that my role was to stay as centered and peaceful as possible, while sending healing energy through me to him. Secondarily, my job was to hold the space for my family members, and help them work through their grief, fears and uncertainties.

The challenge for me as an empath is not getting caught up in the emotions of those around me. And this event was a true test of that!

What I was told by my non-physical teams was that staying out of the drama and holding the vision and space for Darin’s recovery was of paramount importance.

I accomplished this by meditation, daily prayer, and consciously checking in with myself throughout each day to monitor what my thoughts and feelings were.

It was fascinating to me to realize just how much of my husband’s and daughter-in-law’s fears and energies I was absorbing! I had to stop often and clear that fear for us all and purposely send it into the Light for transformation.

If I had allowed that energy to infect me, I could not and would not be able to continue to send healing energy and help Darin to the best of my abilities.

How many times have you experienced something very challenging in your life? And how many times have your gotten sucked into the energy of the circumstance, only to find yourself spinning and feeling helpless to do anything?

I can honestly say that that used to be my life. I would easily get caught up in the drama of the situation and then I would be unable to be as effective as I could have been.

Going through this experience has taught me a powerful lesson in allowing, not judging, and staying connected and centered. Was it easy? NO!

Was the outcome optimal? YES!

I also learned through this that when you are centered and grounded, Spirit can speak to you very clearly! I VERY CLEARLY was told he would be alright. For the first two weeks, I had remind myself that what appeared to be catastrophic was only temporary. And it was!

At the end of May, Darin was moved to a care facility where they coordinated his rehabilitation and managed his daily care needs until he was strong enough to do so himself.

Then about a week ago, he was released to go home! Talk about a miracle! The doctors didn’t hold out much hope in the beginning.

Darin still has quite a ways to go until he’s back to his original strength, but we are absolutely delighted with the progress that has been made so far. He’s already talking about getting back to work, and we have to remind him that this is his time to heal.

I admire his desire to be productive. And I also know from personal experience that it is imperative to allow yourself the time to heal, body, mind and soul from traumatic experiences.

If you are facing any kind of challenging experience, hopefully you can draw on my experience here.

Drop into your belly area, refuse to get drawn into the chaos and confusion of the moment, and start aligning with your SELF and with Source, so that you can receive clear guidance and direction.

That alignment will help you create miracles of all kinds in your life and the lives of your loved ones!

 

 

Transforming Ordinary to Extraordinary

By Michelle Manning-Kogler

As I was looking through some old files, I found this article that was originally published in Tribal Woman Magazine.  I thought, “Who wrote this?”  And was quite surprised that is was ME!  lol  I thought I’d recycle it and share it with you, because it is so relevant today.

[The] “Extraordinary Men” edition of Tribal Woman Magazine really got me thinking about what makes a person – men or women – “extraordinary.”

The dictionary defines extraordinary as:   exceptional in character, amount, extent, degree, etc.; noteworthy; remarkable: extraordinary speed; an extraordinary man.

My thesaurus also says extraordinary means: strange and wonderful, amazing, fantastic, incredible, marvelous, rare, special, or unique.

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But what is the essence of being extraordinary?  And why would anyone want to become that?  Is it something that we are born with, that we strive to achieve, or that we accidentally stumble upon?  Is it something that we innately yearn to be?  Is it something we learn, or simply are?  Can you be extraordinary in one area of your life and not in others?

In my family, striving for perfection or excellence was a prized commodity.  We were highly praised for good grades, or great performances.  When we spoke or sang on stage we practiced until it was “perfect.”  That kind of positive expectation and feedback helped nurture the desire I believe I innately had for creating something of great value. It gave me a sense of value and was a yardstick for measuring success.

In contemplating what it takes to create an extraordinary life, I wondered what internal or external characteristics were required in make that type of transformation.  What makes a person the very best in their careers, in their communities, in their personal lives, in the world?

Many of the people featured in this edition [of Tribal Woman Magazine] and in other editions have become exceptional or extraordinary in some specific way.

They have risen to the top because of their unfailing service to others.  Some have become leaders in business and industry.  Some have had great determination to break through personal difficulties to create healthy, whole lives and show others how to they can achieve success, too.

Others, because of their forward thinking and innovation, make the world a better place for others.  And still others are exceptional because they know how to deeply and unconditionally love.

So is there a specific set of criteria in order to become an extraordinary person?

I believe that everyone has an innate ability to become extraordinary through their full alignment with their unique gifts and talents.  It doesn’t really matter what you do for a living.  You may be a small farmer, a musician, health care worker, a veterinarian, a housekeeper, a bus driver, the president of a multi-national corporation, a famous speaker or or singer, a best-selling author or an live a quiet life of spiritual service to others.  It doesn’t matter so much what you do, but how you do it.

Here are a list of traits that I have found exceptional people have in common:

  1. They take personal responsibility for everything in their lives. They don’t blame others for their perceived failures or allow anything to stop them from realizing their dreams and desires.
  2. They are determined to succeed and be the very best they can be. They have a great passion for what they do and want to share it with the world.
  3. They are life-long learners. They know that learning keeps their passion alive and their brains sharp and strong. New and innovative ideas spring from learning new things. Extraordinary people thrive on education.
  4. They are competent and dependable. They show up when others give up. They are willing to go that extra mile to provide outstanding service, and always get the job in and under budget whenever possible.
  5. They have great personal and professional integrity. They always tell the truth, they are honest and impeccable in their behavior with everyone.
  6. They are willing to admit their mistakes or failures and make things right. They don’t expect others to pick up or cover up for them.
  7. They are open and willing to be vulnerable. When someone is open and willing to be vulnerable, you are allowed to see the real person inside, which creates a strong bond of trust.
  8. They are trustworthy with time, money, other people’s feelings and belongs.
  9. They have a warmth and focus when connecting with people that makes others feel special and secure.
  10. They are generous with their time, abilities, and wealth, expecting nothing in return. Exceptional people know that the more they give, the more they receive.
  11. They are dedicated to something greater than themselves. They are committed to contributing to the world and leaving it a better place.
  12. They have a belief in themselves and in a Higher Being/God/Higher Power/ Source. It doesn’t matter what name you choose, it is a belief in and alignment with Something Greater than ourselves.
  13. They are willing to explore their deepest pain and fears in order to heal their lives and become whole, healthy, and extraordinary.
  14. They enjoy a challenge. Finding a solution is stimulating and an opportunity for innovation.
  15. They communicate well. They clearly disseminate information and are able to break down complex subjects into easily understood concept. They are concise in their speech and writing.
  16. They listen well. They hear not only what is being said, but what is not being said. They intuit the deeper meaning of what they are being told and ask clear, concise questions to come to a full understanding of what is being communicated.
  17. They love deeply and unconditionally. They are willing to say I’m sorry to their loved ones as well as to acquaintances, and admit when they’ve made mistakes.
  18. They respect other people’s time, space and belongings. They respect others for their innate humanity and value them for their individuality.
  19. They respect and honor nature and the earth. They are dedicated to preserving our natural resources and cleaning up the environment whenever they can.
  20. They honor and respect the beliefs and traditions of others, and are dedicated to peaceful co-existence in the world. They have open minds, hearts and souls and are willing to see others viewpoints. They are not threatened by others beliefs, as there is always room for deeper understanding and cooperation.

So I ask you:

  • What can you do to break through the glass ceiling of ordinary into extraordinary?
  • How can you challenge yourself to become exceptional at what you do – I mean even more exceptional than you really are?
  • How can you provide outstanding customer service, create outstanding leadership, or greater love for yourself and others?
  • In what ways can you inspire others to become extraordinary at what they do?
  • Can you allow yourself to feel vulnerable and find the inner determination put yourself out there so that you can shine your unique gifts and talents to positive impact the world?
  • Are you willing to align with your powerful Self, and with your Higher Power to infuse your success with love, integrity, passion, and respect for all in order to fully succeed – both in business and life?

unnamed (1)I challenge you this month to take some time to gently and thoroughly look at your personal and professional life. Honestly assess your strengths, your gifts and talents, as well as your weaknesses. No judgment! Just take stock and determine one area of your life or business that you can work on to make it outstanding.

Whatever you are called to do, determine that you will find ways to do it exceptionally.

Never give up on your dreams. Take time to love yourself and those around you as you build your business or career, and care for your family. Take care to nurture and expand your gifts and talents. You brought them with you into this life for a reason. Aligning fully with what you love to do uplifts the whole world and gives permission for others to do the same.

As you take on your exceptional life, you inspire others and give them permission to be exceptional too. By being exceptional you help make this world an even better place to be.

Countless Blessings,

Michelle

You can get a copy of Michelle’s Connecting With Divine Core Center Meditation and free chapter of her best-selling book, Quantum Soul Clearing – Healing the Scars Life Leaves on the Soul. Go to www.quantumsoulclearing.com/free-gift

 

 

How to Survive Your Dark Night of the Soul

By Michelle Manning-Kogler

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Have you ever had one of those pivotal moments where your life changes in the blink of an eye?  I think most of us have had at least one.  I know I have had several.

For me, one of the big ones was the day my doctor told me that I had rheumatoid arthritis.  I even felt the reverberation in the air when he made the proclamation! And I remember getting chills all over my body.

What I didn’t know is that that pronouncement was the gift that just kept on giving.  It was the beginning of years
of pain and suffering that, for most people, is unimaginable.

What I didn’t know at the time was that it was also going to be my biggest gift – but we’ll get to that in a few minutes.

Within a few years after that diagnosis, I found myself in such a state of disability that I was basically bed ridden.
I was in my early 30’s and my children were still quite young.  At the time I weighed about 100 pounds dripping
wet (I am 5’ 9” tall), and looked like a holocaust survivor.

Friends would lower their voices and ask me in whispers if I had cancer or AIDS.  I had neither.  I was in such excruciating pain that it was taking every calorie I consumed just to deal with it.  And the disease process was eating away at every joint and connective tissue in my body.

It was during this dark night of the soul time that I would lie in bed every morning as my daughters came in to tell me goodbye before going to school.  My youngest would always look me in the eye and ask, “Mom will you be here when I get back home?”

I knew she wasn’t asking if I had plans for the day.  She was asking.

But the second that door closed, I would turn into my pillow and start to sob with grief.  I believed that I had no control over what I was experiencing.  I was terrified that I wasn’t going to see my daughters grow up.  I was in so much pain that I could barely pull the covers up over myself, and cried because I felt sorry for myself and didn’t know how to change anything.

I cried because I hadn’t achieved any of the goals and dreams that I had had growing up.  I cried because I hadn’t visited the places I’d dreamed of visiting.  I was in anguish because I felt I hadn’t contributed anything to the world, and was unsure that I ever would.

I think that was the darkest time of my life.

And then a miracle occurred.  My little nephew, Daniel, was born.  But he was born with a heart that hadn’t fully developed.  The doctors called it hypo-plastic left heart syndrome.

My sister was absolutely devastated.  I just knew I had to be there for her, no matter what, so I dragged myself out of bed and flew to Las Vegas to be with her, never dreaming what was to come.

The entire story of that miraculous event is content for a whole book, but the shortest possible version was that with sheer determination, refusing to give up, and calling on God for a miracle, a way was shown to get little Daniel the life-saving surgery he needed to survive.  And I was so blessed to be a part of that process.

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On that miraculous day, state, local and federal agencies, along with two hospitals and a private air ambulance company, came together to get Daniel from Las Vegas, Nevada to Philadelphia, Pennsylvania (about 2500 miles!).  And it happened in less than five hours!

It was as if normal time stopped, and we stepped into an alternate reality slipstream where time and everything in it was different.  To this day, I can still feel that energy when I think about how the events of that day unfolded. It still gives me chills!

But the bigger message from that extraordinary, miraculous event was for me:  I was not helpless.

I realized that if I had the ability to help change the course of someone’s life and literally make a difference as to whether they lived or died, I could do the same for myself.  I didn’t have to be a victim any longer.

I came back home and started searching for my own answers in an even bigger way than I had previously.  I got into counseling to help me with the extreme depression I was experiencing.  I found a surgeon that was so genuine and caring about me personally, and treated me with grace and respect.  He performed a life-saving operation that gave me my life back.

As my body began to recover, I realized that some western medicine intervention was beneficial, and had my knees scoped so that I could walk again without excruciating pain.

I went back to school.  Got retrained.  Built up some self-confidence that I could actually hold a job and make enough to support myself and my children.  And I learned to love myself and trust myself and my own intuition to do the right things for me.

It didn’t happen overnight and it certainly wasn’t easy!  But it has been worth it.

What If I’m Not Really Broken?

ertI had a profound epiphany this month: I’ve had an unconscious, underlying belief that there is something fundamentally wrong with me and that I was broken.

My second epiphany was that the truth is just the opposite. I’m not broken! In fact, no one is broken – EVEN IF IT FEELS LIKE IT! There’s nothing that needs to be fixed, healed or saved.

What I realized is that there is only energy. If something feels uncomfortable, it is asking to be acknowledged. That discomfort is a sign that the energy or feeling it is out of alignment with our ultimate desired outcome!

Now, if you are like me and have been dealing with a chronic physical challenge for years, you might start to argue for your belief system, like I was. There was a problem that needed a solution. It had to be fixed – and NOW!

But let me share with you a different perspective that I am adopting, because it is changing how I feel and how quickly my body is changing because of it.

Our physical bodies are much more energetically dense than our thoughts and our spirit bodies. They are slower to respond because of this density. But they are responding with every breath and thought that we have!

Sometimes, if we are dealing with big health conditions, big financial circumstances, big relationship challenges, or other big life circumstances, we cannot see the small changes that are taking place. Then we begin to doubt ourselves, our journey, our efficacy. We get discouraged and depressed and that also impacts how our bodies react.

But most of all, I am finding that the discouragement my clients are experiencing is triggering a belief that everything they have done to change is a failure and a fraud. So they become disillusioned and believe that this path of spiritual awakening we are on is false! All because change isn’t happening fast enough according to an underlying belief system!

This is where it is critical to take a step back (or even two, if you need to!), so that we can get a different perspective. Sometimes, we need to get outside help in order to obtain that perspective, whether it is with a trusted friend, family member, or professional.

The truth is, we are making progress toward our desired outcomes every minute of every day. Being mindful of that progress – and patient with anything that appears to be a setback – will move us toward our desired outcomes much more efficiently and happily.

So how do you deal with an apparent setback?
In my case, my physical therapist and I had tried to move too quickly and aggressively during rehab, and the result was excruciating pain, excessive inflammation and having to stop therapy altogether for about a month, in order for the body to rest, heal and ready itself for physical therapy.
Here are some things to assess when you might be experiencing a setback:

 

What is my underlying belief system or expectation – and is it realistic?

I believe this is one of the most important questions to examine, when it comes to transformation or a healing process. Do you believe that you should (notice the emphasis on that word) be able to heal something yourself and in a short time frame? This is one of the biggest stumbling blocks to allowing the process of healing, because we will constantly self-sabotage or push too hard, if we believe that things should be a certain way, and they are not.

Not everyone responds to therapy or a healing modality in the same way as any other person on the planet. Our healing processes are unique to us. In fact, they are as unique as our finger prints. What works for one person may not work for another, or as quickly.

 

Why do you believe that particular belief?

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Where did you pick up that belief that you should be experiencing things in a particular way?
Why do you believe that if you’ve had surgery your body should be completely healed in a matter of days of weeks?
Who says that you should just get over the grief of a loved one dying or leaving?
Who says that just because you’re experiencing a job loss or big loss that you can’t or won’t find an even better job where you will make more money and be happier than before?
What standard of perfection are you holding yourself to that might be getting in the way of your desired ultimate outcome?
I encourage you to take some time and examine what your beliefs really are.

 

What is my body really trying to tell me?

Are you blocking or negating feelings that might be trying to inform and guide you?
Do you need more rest? Better nutrition? More water?
Do you need gentle, soothing touch, or do you need deeper, more aggressive body work?
Are those feelings of anger and resentment hiding the fact that you are being invalidated and emotionally abused by someone that is supposed to love and support you?
Are those feelings of depression trying to tell you that what you believe is not the truth of who you really are?
Is the physical pain in your body trying to tell you that there is something that needs medical intervention and that it’s time to see a good physician or surgeon to assist you in your healing process?
Is the physical pain in your body letting you know that you are over-doing something, and that it’s time to rest and relax?
Is the physical pain in your body trying to tell you that you are stuffing emotions, and it’s time to address what is causing you emotional and mental pain?
Is the physical pain in your body trying to tell you that the foods you are eating are causing inflammation and therefore wide-spread pain?

These are just a few of the questions that will help you inform and support yourself as you deal with what might appear to be a setback.

I say “apparent setback” only because that is what we have labeled it, because we have a belief about the schedule on which we should be doing or experiencing life in some way.

But what if it isn’t really a setback at all? What if it is just part of the fabric of our lives and an opportunity to deepen our mastery and our awareness? What if nothing is really broken, but that the “setback” is asking us to see something more clearly so that we can evolve to a higher level of consciousness, physical perfection and awareness?

What if…..?