What is True Freedom?

What is Freedom? From Quantum Soul ClearingThis weekend on July 4th, the United States celebrates 240 years of independence from England.  That bloody Revolutionary War sparked by the injustices the early Colonial settlers experienced, changed the course of history and birthed America from an English penal colony to a fledgling country of its own.  The founding fathers of this country created the first experiment of democracy since the classical Greek societies in 600 B.C.

Today many Americans – as well as citizens in other countries throughout the world – proclaim their freedom.  Freedom to think for themselves.  Freedom to vote.  Freedom to live a certain life-style. Freedom to worship the way that person chooses without the fear of retribution or even death.  This template of freedom was ignited on that day when the Declaration of Independence was signed here in America.

But is that really true?  Are we truly free – or have we traded perceived security for some form of subjugation?  Are our minds, our thoughts, our actions free from old, outdated beliefs that keep us entrapped and unhappy?  Are our emotions being hijacked by the media, by fear, by anything?  To whom or what have we allowed our independence and sovereignty to be eroded and outright hijacked?

5802012 - old fashionet american constitution with usa  flag.In the U.S. Declaration of Independence, signed on July 4, 1776, our forefathers stated: (Bold italics are mine.)

“When in the Course of human Events, it becomes necessary for one People to dissolve the Political Bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the Powers of the Earth, the separate and equal Station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God entitle them, a decent Respect to the Opinions of Mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the Separation. We hold these Truths to be self-evident, that all Men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness—That to secure these Rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just Powers from the Consent of the Governed, that whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these Ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its Foundation on such Principles, and organizing its Powers in such Form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient Causes; and accordingly all Experience hath shewn, that Mankind are more disposed to suffer, while Evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the Forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long Train of Abuses and Usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object, evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their Right, it is their Duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future Security. Such has been the patient Sufferance of these Colonies; and such is now the Necessity which constrains them to alter their former Systems of Government. The History of the present King of Great-Britain is a History of repeated Injuries and Usurpations, all having in direct Object the Establishment of an absolute Tyranny over these States. To prove this, let Facts be submitted to a candid World…” 

You can read the entire Declaration of Independence here: https://www.uscis.gov/sites/default/files/USCIS/Office%20of%20Citizenship/Citizenship%20Resource%20Center%20Site/Publications/PDFs/M-654.pdf

I love this Declaration of Independence.  It inspires me.  It makes me think.  It teaches me to be a better, stronger person.  It basically says, “We will no longer tolerate the injustice of this situation.  And we are choosing sovereignty, rather than continuing to live under abuses and despotism!”

Ironically, 240 years later, we see very similar situations of tyranny in our own country by the very government that was designed to protect our liberties and right to happiness.  Our government seems to have gone amuck.  How have we allowed this to happen if this government is “We the People, Of the People, By the People and For the People?”

Everywhere is the evidence that our government officials have been bought, and have sold out, to the interests of big business, big pharma, and big agriculture.  But this article isn’t about whining and complaining about it and doing nothing.  Even though most of us have no idea how to repair such a broken, corrupt system that cares too blatantly little for the will of the people it governs.

Could it be that the answers lie within each and every one of us? Could it be that we may even be experiencing similar energies in our own lives?  Is our government reflecting our inner experiences to us in profound 3-D Technicolor ways?  The fact is, we may even be our own abuser, our own oppressor, our own tyrant!

Because there is so much bombardment lately, perhaps you feel overwhelmed and hopeless to make any changes.  But I disagree with that belief.  I believe that we are far more powerful than we give ourselves credit for!

18666589_sI believe that as we change within ourselves the old, entrenched belief systems that are being reflected in our outer world, we have not just the right, but the responsibility to do something about it.  And it starts with us!  It starts by looking within and being willing to make changes.

Because we are all connected through the collective conscious (or unconscious, as the case may be!), everything we are experiencing is impacting the country we live in and the entire planet.  We are not separate.  We are one humanity with the same expectations, needs and desires for something better.  Something greater than ourselves.

There is a great deal of hate speech being spouted here in the U.S. and around the world.  It seems like everybody is feeling hateful about something.  But where do you feel hateful feelings within or about yourself?

What part of your body do you despise?  Is it your thighs, your jiggly arms, your not-so-flat belly, your freckles, your aging skin, your hair, your breasts, your toes, your legs, or your backside?  Why?  Who says these things are not absolutely perfect?  (Hint:  It might be the media and Big Business!)

What part of your life do you absolutely hate – and cannot or will not tolerate? Is there something you simply cannot get past?  Some real or perceived hurt or harm you’ve experienced or been on the receiving end?  Do you dread going to work every day because it feels like you are either giving away a part of your soul or it is being stolen from you? (Hint: It might be old messages from old religious or social patterning.)

What hate-speech are you perpetrating on yourself?  Do you tell yourself you’re stupid, not good enough, not beautiful enough, just not enough – period?  Do you hear the voices of someone in your past telling you you’re ugly or fat, selfish or horrible?  And have you taken on those voices and joined the “choir?”  (Hint:  It might be that bully or rival from childhood or critical parent.)

Do you punish yourself mercilessly for over-eating, by spending hours at the gym?  Numb out with food, drugs, TV, sex, shopping or other addictions to avoid just how much pain you’re really in, because you just don’t know any other coping skills?  What do YOU want to build a wall around so that you can keep something that you perceive as unpleasant out of your life? What part of you needs to be reclaimed and reintegrated with love? (Hint:  This might be self-hatred, or fear of the unknown trying to control your life.)

Are you punishing yourself needless for any past-life “transgressions” that you no longer have any control over (the past is the PAST – there’s no going back, only forgiveness!) by being over-spiritual or over-giving? (Hint:  This might involve some deep soul-clearing work.)

What are you trying to control?  Yourself?  Others?  Certain situations or circumstances that you really have no control over?

Where are you betraying yourself?  How might you be a traitor to your true beliefs or desires in order to keep an imagined peace?

If what areas have you become so intolerant or judgmental of yourself or others that even the slightest infractions of behavior send your blood pressure and emotions sky-rocketing out of control?

5676633 - united states declaration of independenceIf you have answered “yes” to any of these questions – or if these questions have triggered any other “ah-ha’s” for you, I believe it’s time for your own personal Declaration of Independence.

It’s time to take a stand for yourself.  For higher principles.  For greater love and compassion for yourself and for others.  I believe we are all just doing the best we can in a world in which the energetic and emotional heat is being turned up.

There’s an agenda that is designed to keep us enslaved to the status quo.  Fighting ourselves and one another.  Keeping us embroiled and agitated so that all we see are our differences and not our true similarities.  It’s a way to control us and we’re buying into it.  It’s time to opt out!

Here’s a version of my own Declaration of Independence I’m adopting for myself this year.  It’s a reminder to myself that I truly am a sovereign Being of the planet and of the Universe.  And that as that Sovereign Being – that Divine Sovereign Being with inalienable rights granted to me by a loving and compassionate Creator – I am responsible for creating my own reality.

I am responsible for the energy I put out in the world.  I am responsible for the words I speak the either agitate people to violence, hurt someone and make them doubt themselves, or inspire others to greatness.

I am responsible for how I treat myself, and for breaking out of old, entrained patterns that were established more than half a century ago, that I have old recently become aware of.  These old patterns are no longer in alignment with who I am today.  So I believe that it’s time for my own personal revolution.  What about you?  Will you join me?

When in the Course of my evolutionary human existence, it becomes necessary that I, as an evolving, conscious Human Being, have needs to dissolve the emotional, mental, physical, spiritual and financial Bands which have chained me to myself or with any others in ways that are limiting, disabling, and karmically unsustainable; and to assume the Powers of Heaven and Earth, the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God which entitle ME a conscious separation from the pain and suffering I have been inflicting on myself or others. 

I hold these Truths to be self-evident, that I – and all Human Beings – are created beautifully, powerfully, joyously and freely.  That we are endowed by and with our Creator’s Consciousness, with certain Unalienable Rights. That among these are Life, Liberty, and the pursuit of Happiness.  That to secure these Rights, I now mandate that I am Self-Aware and Self-Governing.  It is MY Right – and the right of all People – to alter or to abolish destructive and limiting beliefs, thoughts and practices, and to institute new Personal, conscientious Governance, in order to create and effect my Individual Safety, Authority, Prosperity and Happiness.

I have long-endured almost unendurable harshness because I thought I had no choice, and no power to change.  Indeed, I didn’t recognize the maltreatments because they were simply part of my formerly unconscious life.  But When the long Train of Abuses and forcible seizure of my personal power and free will, either by myself or others, which are designed to reduce me completely under absolute oppression, coercion, authoritarianism and domination, it is My Right, it is My Duty, to throw off such Governance, and to provide new Guards and Standards for my future Security, Safety and Happiness. It is now necessary through my deeper understanding of my Greater Soul Self, which compels me to alter my personal beliefs and personal governances.  Because of the tyranny these old beliefs, thoughts and actions have had over my Being, as a sovereign Being of the Universe, I choose joy, freedom, the pursuit of my soul’s purpose, beauty, enlightenment and ONENESS over all else…”

843292 - j. edgar hoover fbi building, washington dc, usaI love this awakening and evolutionary – even revolutionary – time we are in.  Although it may be a little overwhelming, stressful, and scary, it’s also exhilarating, powerful, and OURS!

This is a pivotal time in history for humanity, both collectively and personally.  Never before in recorded history have we had the opportunity for so much personal freedom – or so much to lose.  So much understanding of our place in the Universe.  So much raw opportunity to become and embody the completely Divine Expression that we are designed to be.

Here’s to true freedom.  Yours and mine.  The freedom to be whatever and whomever you wish to be!  Happy 4th of July!

Staying Centered During Deeply Troubling Times

I picked up an early morning call from my brother in law on May 1st, asking what the latest news was on Darin. My sleepy brain registered the fact that something wasn’t quite right, but I really had NO idea why he was asking about my step-son.

In response to my questioning, he said, “Apparently, you haven’t heard. Darin was in a terrible motorcycle accident last night and is in ICU.” And with those words, I was wide awake!

I immediately went to find my husband and together we made the call to my daughter-in-law, Jessica, to find out what was happening.

That was when we learned that he was in such critical condition, that doctors didn’t expect him to survive. Needless to say, Jessica was almost hysterical and terrified that she was going to lose her husband.

I found myself automatically checking in with him intuitively, and was told he would be just fine. I worked with Jessica for a little bit to get her calmed down, then went to work on Darin remotely, myself.

Over and over again, I was told by my non-physical teams, “He will be just fine. Do not panic. Do not worry. Hold only positive thoughts for him.”

Somehow I found myself in pure peacefulness, despite the news and despite everything we were being told. At first, I kept checking in with myself to make sure I wasn’t just numbing out and detaching from it all.

I’m usually the one who quickly attaches and gets swept away by all the drama! But this time, it was my job to hold space for all the healing opportunities for him, as well as for the entire family. And that’s just what I did.

I reached out to my friends and community asked for prayers for his healing. I was absolutely blown away by the outpouring I received. Darius Barazandeh, Eram Saeed, and Shefali Burns, some of my telesummit hosts, all added Darin to their community’s prayer circles, effectively connecting with hundreds of thousands of people around the world.

Love and healing offerings began pouring in. Kimberly McGeorge sent a healing audio; hundreds of people in my community sent reiki and other types of remote healing modalities. The responses by people I knew and others who were “strangers” was deeply moving and almost overwhelming.

As the days went by, and there was no real change in his condition. I began to doubt myself, and to question the validity of the information I had received. I tend to be a bit impatient! And I wanted him awake and on the mend immediately!

However, I continued to do my healing work on him remotely, holding space for his ultimate outcome and also holding space for my husband and family to grieve and work through their own feelings.

About a week into his ICU stay, Darin suffered another setback. He started spiking a fever of about 103°F. More tests were run and we found that he had developed pneumonia! Apparently when he had his accident, he aspirated dirt from the road, as well as food and stomach acid from his own body. The result was a raging infection that required specialized IV antibiotics, suctioning his lungs and constant monitoring.

Things looked pretty dark – and still I was told, “He will be OK. Remain calm and continue holding space, and continue sending healing energies.”

Despite the drama paying itself out, I managed to remain centered and calm. I am not sure how I was able to do it. But I had a very clear knowing that he would come out of it.

Then, about two weeks after the accident, Darin started showing signs of waking up. We were cautiously elated, because we weren’t sure just how much damage his brain and body had suffered and what those effects would be.

At first, he was quite disoriented. He couldn’t talk because of the trachea tube they’d inserted to help with the pneumonia. He seemed to recognize Jessica, his wife, but was so exhausted he was only awake for moments at a time.

However, each day, those waking moments lengthened. Within a few days, the doctors did more tests and learned that he was strong enough to have the trachea tube removed, which allowed him to speak.

Throughout this time, I knew that my role was to stay as centered and peaceful as possible, while sending healing energy through me to him. Secondarily, my job was to hold the space for my family members, and help them work through their grief, fears and uncertainties.

The challenge for me as an empath is not getting caught up in the emotions of those around me. And this event was a true test of that!

What I was told by my non-physical teams was that staying out of the drama and holding the vision and space for Darin’s recovery was of paramount importance.

I accomplished this by meditation, daily prayer, and consciously checking in with myself throughout each day to monitor what my thoughts and feelings were.

It was fascinating to me to realize just how much of my husband’s and daughter-in-law’s fears and energies I was absorbing! I had to stop often and clear that fear for us all and purposely send it into the Light for transformation.

If I had allowed that energy to infect me, I could not and would not be able to continue to send healing energy and help Darin to the best of my abilities.

unnamed (2)How many times have you experienced something very challenging in your life? And how many times have your gotten sucked into the energy of the circumstance, only to find yourself spinning and feeling helpless to do anything?

I can honestly say that that used to be my life. I would easily get caught up in the drama of the situation and then I would be unable to be as effective as I could have been.

Going through this experience has taught me a powerful lesson in allowing, not judging, and staying connected and centered. Was it easy? NO!

Was the outcome optimal? YES!

I also learned through this that when you are centered and grounded, Spirit can speak to you very clearly! I VERY CLEARLY was told he would be alright. For the first two weeks, I had remind myself that what appeared to be catastrophic was only temporary. And it was!

At the end of May, Darin was moved to a care facility where they coordinated his rehabilitation and managed his daily care needs until he was strong enough to do so himself.

Then about a week ago, he was released to go home! Talk about a miracle! The doctors didn’t hold out much hope in the beginning.

Darin still has quite a ways to go until he’s back to his original strength, but we are absolutely delighted with the progress that has been made so far. He’s already talking about getting back to work, and we have to remind him that this is his time to heal.

I admire his desire to be productive. And I also know from personal experience that it is imperative to allow yourself the time to heal, body, mind and soul from traumatic experiences.

If you are facing any kind of challenging experience, hopefully you can draw on my experience here.

Drop into your belly area, refuse to get drawn into the chaos and confusion of the moment, and start aligning with your SELF and with Source, so that you can receive clear guidance and direction.

That alignment will help you create miracles of all kinds in your life and the lives of your loved ones!

I picked up an early morning call from my brother in law on May 1st, asking what the latest news was on Darin. My sleepy brain registered the fact that something wasn’t quite right, but I really had NO idea why he was asking about my step-son.

In response to my questioning, he said, “Apparently, you haven’t heard. Darin was in a terrible motorcycle accident last night and is in ICU.” And with those words, I was wide awake!

I immediately went to find my husband and together we made the call to my daughter-in-law, Jessica, to find out what was happening.

That was when we learned that he was in such critical condition, that doctors didn’t expect him to survive. Needless to say, Jessica was almost hysterical and terrified that she was going to lose her husband.

I found myself automatically checking in with him intuitively, and was told he would be just fine. I worked with Jessica for a little bit to get her calmed down, then went to work on Darin remotely, myself.

Over and over again, I was told by my non-physical teams, “He will be just fine. Do not panic. Do not worry. Hold only positive thoughts for him.”

Somehow I found myself in pure peacefulness, despite the news and despite everything we were being told. At first, I kept checking in with myself to make sure I wasn’t just numbing out and detaching from it all.

I’m usually the one who quickly attaches and gets swept away by all the drama! But this time, it was my job to hold space for all the healing opportunities for him, as well as for the entire family. And that’s just what I did.

I reached out to my friends and community asked for prayers for his healing. I was absolutely blown away by the outpouring I received. Darius Barazandeh, Eram Saeed, and Shefali Burns, some of my telesummit hosts, all added Darin to their community’s prayer circles, effectively connecting with hundreds of thousands of people around the world.

Love and healing offerings began pouring in. Kimberly McGeorge sent a healing audio; hundreds of people in my community sent reiki and other types of remote healing modalities. The responses by people I knew and others who were “strangers” was deeply moving and almost overwhelming.

As the days went by, and there was no real change in his condition. I began to doubt myself, and to question the validity of the information I had received. I tend to be a bit impatient! And I wanted him awake and on the mend immediately!

However, I continued to do my healing work on him remotely, holding space for his ultimate outcome and also holding space for my husband and family to grieve and work through their own feelings.

About a week into his ICU stay, Darin suffered another setback. He started spiking a fever of about 103°F. More tests were run and we found that he had developed pneumonia! Apparently when he had his accident, he aspirated dirt from the road, as well as food and stomach acid from his own body. The result was a raging infection that required specialized IV antibiotics, suctioning his lungs and constant monitoring.

Things looked pretty dark – and still I was told, “He will be OK. Remain calm and continue holding space, and continue sending healing energies.”

Despite the drama paying itself out, I managed to remain centered and calm. I am not sure how I was able to do it. But I had a very clear knowing that he would come out of it.

Then, about two weeks after the accident, Darin started showing signs of waking up. We were cautiously elated, because we weren’t sure just how much damage his brain and body had suffered and what those effects would be.

At first, he was quite disoriented. He couldn’t talk because of the trachea tube they’d inserted to help with the pneumonia. He seemed to recognize Jessica, his wife, but was so exhausted he was only awake for moments at a time.

However, each day, those waking moments lengthened. Within a few days, the doctors did more tests and learned that he was strong enough to have the trachea tube removed, which allowed him to speak.

Throughout this time, I knew that my role was to stay as centered and peaceful as possible, while sending healing energy through me to him. Secondarily, my job was to hold the space for my family members, and help them work through their grief, fears and uncertainties.

The challenge for me as an empath is not getting caught up in the emotions of those around me. And this event was a true test of that!

What I was told by my non-physical teams was that staying out of the drama and holding the vision and space for Darin’s recovery was of paramount importance.

I accomplished this by meditation, daily prayer, and consciously checking in with myself throughout each day to monitor what my thoughts and feelings were.

It was fascinating to me to realize just how much of my husband’s and daughter-in-law’s fears and energies I was absorbing! I had to stop often and clear that fear for us all and purposely send it into the Light for transformation.

If I had allowed that energy to infect me, I could not and would not be able to continue to send healing energy and help Darin to the best of my abilities.

How many times have you experienced something very challenging in your life? And how many times have your gotten sucked into the energy of the circumstance, only to find yourself spinning and feeling helpless to do anything?

I can honestly say that that used to be my life. I would easily get caught up in the drama of the situation and then I would be unable to be as effective as I could have been.

Going through this experience has taught me a powerful lesson in allowing, not judging, and staying connected and centered. Was it easy? NO!

Was the outcome optimal? YES!

I also learned through this that when you are centered and grounded, Spirit can speak to you very clearly! I VERY CLEARLY was told he would be alright. For the first two weeks, I had remind myself that what appeared to be catastrophic was only temporary. And it was!

At the end of May, Darin was moved to a care facility where they coordinated his rehabilitation and managed his daily care needs until he was strong enough to do so himself.

Then about a week ago, he was released to go home! Talk about a miracle! The doctors didn’t hold out much hope in the beginning.

Darin still has quite a ways to go until he’s back to his original strength, but we are absolutely delighted with the progress that has been made so far. He’s already talking about getting back to work, and we have to remind him that this is his time to heal.

I admire his desire to be productive. And I also know from personal experience that it is imperative to allow yourself the time to heal, body, mind and soul from traumatic experiences.

If you are facing any kind of challenging experience, hopefully you can draw on my experience here.

Drop into your belly area, refuse to get drawn into the chaos and confusion of the moment, and start aligning with your SELF and with Source, so that you can receive clear guidance and direction.

That alignment will help you create miracles of all kinds in your life and the lives of your loved ones!

 

 

What If I’m Not Really Broken?

ertI had a profound epiphany this month: I’ve had an unconscious, underlying belief that there is something fundamentally wrong with me and that I was broken.

My second epiphany was that the truth is just the opposite. I’m not broken! In fact, no one is broken – EVEN IF IT FEELS LIKE IT! There’s nothing that needs to be fixed, healed or saved.

What I realized is that there is only energy. If something feels uncomfortable, it is asking to be acknowledged. That discomfort is a sign that the energy or feeling it is out of alignment with our ultimate desired outcome!

Now, if you are like me and have been dealing with a chronic physical challenge for years, you might start to argue for your belief system, like I was. There was a problem that needed a solution. It had to be fixed – and NOW!

But let me share with you a different perspective that I am adopting, because it is changing how I feel and how quickly my body is changing because of it.

Our physical bodies are much more energetically dense than our thoughts and our spirit bodies. They are slower to respond because of this density. But they are responding with every breath and thought that we have!

Sometimes, if we are dealing with big health conditions, big financial circumstances, big relationship challenges, or other big life circumstances, we cannot see the small changes that are taking place. Then we begin to doubt ourselves, our journey, our efficacy. We get discouraged and depressed and that also impacts how our bodies react.

But most of all, I am finding that the discouragement my clients are experiencing is triggering a belief that everything they have done to change is a failure and a fraud. So they become disillusioned and believe that this path of spiritual awakening we are on is false! All because change isn’t happening fast enough according to an underlying belief system!

This is where it is critical to take a step back (or even two, if you need to!), so that we can get a different perspective. Sometimes, we need to get outside help in order to obtain that perspective, whether it is with a trusted friend, family member, or professional.

The truth is, we are making progress toward our desired outcomes every minute of every day. Being mindful of that progress – and patient with anything that appears to be a setback – will move us toward our desired outcomes much more efficiently and happily.

So how do you deal with an apparent setback?
In my case, my physical therapist and I had tried to move too quickly and aggressively during rehab, and the result was excruciating pain, excessive inflammation and having to stop therapy altogether for about a month, in order for the body to rest, heal and ready itself for physical therapy.
Here are some things to assess when you might be experiencing a setback:

 

What is my underlying belief system or expectation – and is it realistic?

I believe this is one of the most important questions to examine, when it comes to transformation or a healing process. Do you believe that you should (notice the emphasis on that word) be able to heal something yourself and in a short time frame? This is one of the biggest stumbling blocks to allowing the process of healing, because we will constantly self-sabotage or push too hard, if we believe that things should be a certain way, and they are not.

Not everyone responds to therapy or a healing modality in the same way as any other person on the planet. Our healing processes are unique to us. In fact, they are as unique as our finger prints. What works for one person may not work for another, or as quickly.

 

Why do you believe that particular belief?

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Where did you pick up that belief that you should be experiencing things in a particular way?
Why do you believe that if you’ve had surgery your body should be completely healed in a matter of days of weeks?
Who says that you should just get over the grief of a loved one dying or leaving?
Who says that just because you’re experiencing a job loss or big loss that you can’t or won’t find an even better job where you will make more money and be happier than before?
What standard of perfection are you holding yourself to that might be getting in the way of your desired ultimate outcome?
I encourage you to take some time and examine what your beliefs really are.

 

What is my body really trying to tell me?

Are you blocking or negating feelings that might be trying to inform and guide you?
Do you need more rest? Better nutrition? More water?
Do you need gentle, soothing touch, or do you need deeper, more aggressive body work?
Are those feelings of anger and resentment hiding the fact that you are being invalidated and emotionally abused by someone that is supposed to love and support you?
Are those feelings of depression trying to tell you that what you believe is not the truth of who you really are?
Is the physical pain in your body trying to tell you that there is something that needs medical intervention and that it’s time to see a good physician or surgeon to assist you in your healing process?
Is the physical pain in your body letting you know that you are over-doing something, and that it’s time to rest and relax?
Is the physical pain in your body trying to tell you that you are stuffing emotions, and it’s time to address what is causing you emotional and mental pain?
Is the physical pain in your body trying to tell you that the foods you are eating are causing inflammation and therefore wide-spread pain?

These are just a few of the questions that will help you inform and support yourself as you deal with what might appear to be a setback.

I say “apparent setback” only because that is what we have labeled it, because we have a belief about the schedule on which we should be doing or experiencing life in some way.

But what if it isn’t really a setback at all? What if it is just part of the fabric of our lives and an opportunity to deepen our mastery and our awareness? What if nothing is really broken, but that the “setback” is asking us to see something more clearly so that we can evolve to a higher level of consciousness, physical perfection and awareness?

What if…..?

The Trick To Making Peace With Change

What do you do when you know you need to make a change but are either too afraid to make it, or you’re not sure how to make those changes?time for change

 

Most people don’t make changes in their lives until their situation is so painful that they can’t stand it one more minute!  This is typically how decisions are made – whether it pertains to a relationship, clothing styles, new vehicles, careers, addictions, expanding waist lines, or even shopping for groceries.

 

The problem is that we wait to make changes until we are in a state of crisis, instead of consciousness.  Being in crisis mode causes us to make decisions that are often not in our best interests.  They are made when we are in a state of panic – that fight, flight or freeze state – which means we are literally out of our minds and completely reactive!

 

Seems kind of silly, doesn’t it? I have yet to meet someone who made a really good decision based on panic.

 

Yet most people just will not make a decision and do something until they are in some type of crisis.

 

Change is not something that most of us enjoy, because it involves risk.  It means being uncomfortable.  It means dealing with the unknown.  It could mean the possibility of failing – or wildly succeeding; both of which come with their own fears and insecurities.

 

But is there an easier way to face and make changes that would make it easier to accomplish?  Are there small things we can do that will help us stop procrastinating and making changes until they are at a critical stage?

 

Here are some tips that might help you think – and act – differently when facing your next big change:

 

1 - How do you feel?

Seems like a pretty straight-forward question, but are you really in touch with your feelings?  Or are you a wizard at stuffing uncomfortable feelings?  You know, out of sight out of mind?

 

When we are unconscious iStock_000006493749Smallabout our feelings, we are not living consciously.  Our feelings are the language of Spirit.  It’s how our Highest Selves let us know if we are on track or are off target.

 

Feeling awful inside lets us know that we are not in alignment with who we really are!  Feeling good, centered and peaceful are signs that we are aligned with our life purpose and are on the right path.

 

2 - If you don’t feel comfortable inside, what is the problem?

Sometimes we are aware that something is off, but we can’t quite figure out what it is.  Our subconscious minds are letting our feelings know that there is a problem, or something that needs our attention.  But are you too busy to check inside and determine if you feel happy and peaceful or if you are anxious and afraid?

 

3 - Know if there is a problem that needs your attention.

This sound like a no-brainer, but if you (or a loved one) is dealing with an addiction, for example, you (or they) may not fully get that there’s problem!  If you are not conscious that there is a problem (or you are denying that it’s as big a problem as it really is), look around you – and look within, as well.

 

Are you being controlled by something (drugs, cigarettes, chaos, food, sex, alcohol, other people, etc.  Be honest here.  Can you honestly say that you can go without _________ (fill in the blank) for the rest of your life?  Or is it that you just don’t want to?

 

What I know – and have seen – is that there is a point in addiction when you can still walk away from the substance you are abusing.  However, there is a certain point in that addiction when you cannot, and the addiction or substance completely takes over.

 

Often, you try to ignore that problem and keep doing what you’re doing, because another fix stops the noise for a few hours, days or weeks or even months.  You tell yourself that you’re cured.  You’ll never do it again – until the next time comes and it’s even more urgent.  That’s when you can be assured it is a real problem.

 

4 - Know when it’s time to ask for and get help.

Once you acknowledge and identify that there is a problem, then you can decide how to handle it.

 

If it’s something small like grocery shopping for the next week’s food, you probably have the skills and ability to handle that.  It’s making the time and perhaps changing your mind-set about grocery shopping.

 

Instead of being a chore or necessary evil you force yourself to submit to when you absolutely have to, could you think of a way to make it more enjoyable or even fun?  Think if it as an opportunity to love and support yourself and your family through healthy eating and creative meal planning.

 

If it’s a matter of changing jobs or careers, consider doing some aptitude and abilities testing to see what really suits you.  It might be just the ticket to putting you on a whole new career path that allows your natural gifts and abilities to shine!

 

Do you need some additional training or schooling to get into your preferred field?  If so, start that process.  If not, spend some time updating your resume.  Do some research into the industry you are interested in and start making contacts.  Consider talking to a recruiter or job-placement specialist to help you land your dream job.

 

If it’s a full-blown addiction you are dealing with, you owe it to yourself to find treatment and counseling that will help you work through the underlying emotional and physical issues that are the basis of that addiction.  Please don’t assume you can do it yourself.  That just sets you up for failure.

 

There’s no shame in asking for help!  From housekeeping, to hair stylists, to addiction counseling, to career counseling, and beyond.  The smartest, most talented people are the ones that get the most help to insure their success!

 

5 - Take things in small steps.

shutterstock_132894920It is impossible to eat an entire 7-course meal in one bite.  It would be absolutely foolish to even try!  But you can eat that meal one bite at a time, right?  And remember the old cliche: “Rome wasn’t built in a day!”

 

Break the problem down into smaller, bite-sized chunks.  Are you dealing with a weight issue?  Don’t obsess about the 80 pounds your physician says you need to lose.  You already know that.  Have that major goal in mind, but break it down a day, week or a month at a time!

 

Plan a course of action.  It’s not just about calories in and calories out.  That is old-paradigm thinking!

 

Find an integrative practitioner or ND that can help you uncover any hormonal, fungal, bacterial, viral, or parasitic infections that might be contributing to the weight issue.  Ask them to test you for food allergies or intolerance that are causing inflammation and subsequent weight gain.

 

Or consider a three-week elimination diet that removes wheat, gluten, sugar, soy, corn, eggs, dairy and peanuts – the most common food allergens – from your diet.  Millions of people who have followed this elimination diet have immediately felt better, eliminated physical pain, increased physical energy, and lost weight!

 

Move your body daily.  You don’t need extreme exercise – especially if you’ve been sedentary or have joint or physical pain!  Walk, dance, use a rebounder, get in a pool, simply stretch.  But get your body moving so that you are increasing how effectively your metabolism burns calories, eliminates toxins, and uses your body’s fat stores for fuel.

 

Making a day-by-day plan of action, allows you to focus on achieving your goals, and one that can be easily executed.  Plus, if you have a daily plan, you can more easily record and monitor your results so that it is easier to stay on task!iStock_000014790902Small

 

6 - Be Kind and Gentle With Yourself!

We are often our own worst critic.  Some of the thoughts we think about and say to ourselves we would never say to another living soul!  We are often careless and cruel to ourselves because we’ve either been taught that it’s OK, or that we’ve come to believe that it’s a way to motivate ourselves to succeed.

 

Nothing could be further from the truth!  That inner destructive self-talk is standing between you and your goals and dreams.  Please stop it!  You are beautiful.  You are smart and intelligent.  You are loveable.  You are worthy.

 

Don’t let anyone – especially yourself – tell you any different.  Stop bullying yourself and telling lies, because they just aren’t true!  Yes, we’ve all made mistakes.  But give yourself a break – and  HUGE hug.

 

Start today over.  Start allowing yourself to love yourself.  Start nurturing your dreams and desires.  Start seeing yourself as infinitely capable and smart.  Trust that you have everything it takes to succeed – because you DO!

 

7 - If you find yourself feeling down, unhappy, uncomfortable in any way, “Stop, Drop and Roll.”

 

  • Stop doing what you are doing.
  • Drop down inside and connect with your Divine Core Center (that’s in the solar plexus/belly area).
  • Then Roll out the Quantum Soul Clearing Process™.

 

Begin eliminating and releasing the painful emotions and self-talk until you feel your energy shift and you feel much better.  It won’t take long – and it will pay you MAJOR positive karmic dividends!

 

I would like to share a special gift for you to help show you how simple the process really is: Click here for the Eliminating Addictions Audio.

 

Where Is Energy Stagnation Impacting Your Life?

iStock_000018487816Medium   In my Personal Note From Michelle this week, I talked about how clearing up old and dying energy in one part of my life helped breathe new life into other areas of my life. It changed how I felt physically and energetically and it also helped my husband miraculously manifest a place to park our RV closer to where he is working in Santa Cruz.

Even though I know how energy works, part of me thought that it might be a stretch to imagine how pulling up my dying gardens would result in opening the space for him to move closer to work. But then I realized that everything is energy, and is intricately intertwined. I’d been really having to work hard to keep my flowers alive in an extreme drought and they were not doing well. In fact, there were dying from the heat and lack of water. I was living in the energy of struggle.

I realized that with all of my efforts, to make something stay alive, I was tying up some very important energy and not allowing that energy flow to where it needed to be. I was struggling against nature – and against myself!

Once I made that connection, I began to wonder what other areas of my life might need to be cleaned up so that energy can more easily flow throughout my entire life.

Often we don’t see the correlation between a cluttered office, closet or garage, and how that is impacting our financial abundance.

We don’t see how the unresolved resentment and rage we have toward someone in our past is contributing to our lack of health and vitality, or is creating anxiety.

We don’t understand how our unconscious negative self-talk is preventing us from having the most amazing, loving relationship that we’ve been yearning for forever!

But it’s all about the energy….

When you are surrounded by clutter and are storing things that you “might need someday,” you are telling the universe that you just don’t have the abundance to obtain what you need shutterstock_196109159when you need it. You are sending out a very specific energy signature that is all about lack. What you broadcast out always comes back in the same or similar form.

If your closets, drawers, and garage are so full that you can’t put another thing in them, you are literally telling the Universe that there’s no room for anything more! You have everything you need, so there’s no need to send more! You are shutting off the incoming flow of abundance.

I can’t tell you the number of clients that come to me wanting to change their financial abundance. When we look at their personal Money Map, they finally discover what’s blocking their abundance. Often they are shocked to realize the number of deeply held beliefs they have about money they had no idea they were carrying!

Then there are the clients I work with who are on a path of personal empowerment. Their lives are working well for the most part, but deep inside, something feels like it is missing. They are successful, but they don’t feel good about themselves inside. They tend to describe their lives as unfulfilling and boring, and they don’t understand why. They are successful, have a measure of financial abundance, are in committed relationships, but still something is missing.

During these session, we explore and release old programs that help them reconnect to their Real Selves. We look at what might be undermining their self-worth and self-esteem. We uncover the deeply held beliefs that to be an adult means putting child-like emotions and play behind. And much, much more!

shutterstock_51790411Of course, those hidden programs sap their joy and self-fulfillment! As we uncover the beautiful Being within, they can see how the unconscious, deeply held beliefs they’ve had from the past no longer are in alignment with who they have become. As they shed those old programs and align with the truth of their gifts and talents, they can easily allow even greater abundance and personal satisfaction to become their new way of being.

So what about you? What part of your life might be being blocked or has become stagnant, because there is cluttered and dying energy in another area of your life? Although it might appear to be unrelated, I have found that they are absolutely, completely intertwined.

Sometimes, the “cure” for the problem is a simple shift in energy to open up the flow of abundance and well-being. Sometimes it takes a little more digging. Ultimately though, it does take some inner introspection and willingness to look within to discover what is there.

If you are experiencing financial stagnation,consider booking a private Your Unique Money Map appointment with me to find out all the areas that are being impacted, and how we can create greater financial flow and abundance in your life today!

Do You Know What’s Really Shaping Your Reality?

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I know that it is technically still Summer, but now it’s Labor Day weekend and that means that fall is sneaking up on us really fast!

It’s back to school and back to work. It’s shorter days and cooler nights.  It’s football games and after school activities.  It’s a feeling of being more confined, and disciplined so that you can be successful.

It’s getting the yard cleaned up, harvesting the garden, and getting it ready to be put to bed for the winter so the soil can rest and rejuvenate. (Can you tell I had a rural, farm background?  lol)

It’s funny.  I haven’t been in school or lived a farm life for years!  But that energy is so ingrained in my biological clock and in the collective, that it still impacts me to this day!

That brings me to the point of this article:

What are the patterns and programs that shaped you?

Are they positive or negative?

If some were negative, are they still active in your life – or are there still active pieces running?

And most of all, are they still serving you?

Most of us are so busy working, raising children, paying bills, and dealing with everyday life challenges, we don’t take the time to stop, examine and re-assess what it is that is really running our lives.

As you think back to childhood, what are the beliefs that you consciously or unconsciously adopted?  Have you taken the time to examine what they really are and if they are still important to you?

If you were an oldest child, and you were made to be responsible for the younger children, or made to feel responsible for everyone’s feelings, are you still doing that?

Are you carrying that fractal pattern into your personal or professional life and taking on too much responsibility while family members or co-workers should be stepping up the plate more often?

Perhaps you tell yourself it’s easier for you to just do it.  After all, you’ve been doing it all these years anyway, right?

overwhelmedBut are you also feeling overwhelmed, resentful, even angry because you are doing it all?  Perhaps you just can’t figure out how to delegate tasks, or give the authority to others who should be responsible.

That’s what I’m talking about.  That is only one example of old programming that might still be running us.  Often, there is a theme involved.  In this case, it is over responsibility.

While it does make us feel in control (admit it, you enjoy that feeling sometimes!), it also make you feel anxious.  It makes you tired and cranky sometimes too, because it feels as if the world is resting on your shoulders alone.

Where’s the help when you need it?

Now I’m not advocating you abdicate personal responsibility.  But I am suggesting that you examine this ingrained pattern and see if it still really serves you.

If it does, great!

If not, then it is time to get others on board so that they can feel the empowerment of learning new skills that give them a sense of accomplishment and worthiness.

Even getting the kids to make their beds, pick up their rooms and set the table gives them a sense of being part of the family and having chores they are capable of doing.  That builds their self-confidence and gives them a sense of accomplishment and mastery.

And the same applies to your co-workers.  Are you their emotional dumping ground?  Are you the person who unofficially takes on all the office’s emotional complaining and griping, and are then left exhausted, frustrated and out of sorts at the end of the day?

It’s the perfect time to suggest that instead of coming to you to whine, complain and emotionally unload, that they tell the person they have a problem with, or the boss instead.

Are you taking on more work in the office than you should and being overly responsible?  Now this is a little tricky, because there’s a belief in corporate life that the more you take on, the more you’ll be valued.  And there is something to that.

But if you’re taking on a number of tasks and there’s no recognition – just more dumping – then there’s a problem.

Identifying the hidden patterns and rectifying them will pay you dividends! Not taking on all the extra “shtuff” will allow you to create clearer more effective boundaries.  It will free up extra time and emotional resources so that you feel better and experience more joy.

I urge you to begin examining these hidden patterns and program for yourself.  You never know what you’ll find and just how powerful they are!

And if you get stuck, I’m always here to help!  I’m really good at uncovering those patterns that you just can’t see, so that you gain clarity and freedom.  And right now, until Sept 5th my private sessions are 50% off.

Here’s to creating new patterns of empowerment in your life!

Want to Help Me Create a Tsunami of Hope, Peace, Love and Joy?

world on your shouldersWe are living in a time in history where more people than ever before are being impacted by war and violence.

Even if you or someone you love are not living in a war zone, you only need turn on the evening news, scroll through Facebook, turn on the radio,  or read the newspaper or a magazine, to feel the impact.  Our media is helping to spread the virus of bad news and violence with all of their sensationalized news reports.

And that doesn’t even take into account any of our unconscious programming or our soul’s memories of past lifetimes where we personally experienced violence…

Or any of our generational programming from our ancestors who were personally involved or impacted by war or other types of violence. Those intense memories and experiences get stuck in the DNA and often are passed down from one generation to the next.

It’s not something we like to talk about, because it is uncomfortable and scary.  We feel helpless to change anything that overwhelming and big.

In addition, our Spiritual communities teach us that that we don’t want to focus on the negative because it just creates more of what we are focusing on.  And there is some truth to that.

But that doesn’t make the energies or implications any less impactful.

Wouldn’t You Love to be Part of the
Solution for 
Worldwide Peace?

ripple-260x350The truth is that we are all connected by the morphogenetic field called the Collective Consciousness.  Every human being on this planet is in some way being affected by what is held in this field – especially when these powerful, painful and difficult energies are present.

However, right now, we can do something to help ourselves, our loved ones and every person on the planet.  We can eliminate our personal, energetic charges and fears regarding war and violence, so we are not adding to the conflict and mass consciousness.  And we can infuse positive, powerful new energies into the Collective Consciousness and help shift the tide for peace.

As you eliminate destructive energies, you change and upgrade your personal energies to a much higher, more positive level!

Just like dropping a single droplet of water into a pool, waves of positive frequencies begin to spread out, impacting those around us, and every human being on the planet.  With enough people resonating at a higher frequency, we can ultimately bring peace to the planet!

As a conscious, awakening human being, you have an opportunity to help shift the energy of war and violence and create a new reality space filled with hope, empowerment, renewal, peace and unity.

It won’t cost you a thing!  It is my gift to you.

Click here to receive your complimentary audio clearings that will help clear out the frequencies of war and violence.

I know it might seem very simplistic.  But we have to start somewhere.  Let’s tackle this head-on.  Let’s acknowledge that we have the power to make changes and uplift the world.  This is just the beginning.

Help me spread the energies of peace, hope and well-being around the world.  Share this page with everyone you know so that they can receive their free gift of healing and love, too.  Together we can effect powerful change and contribute our positive energies together in a tsunami of hope, peace, love and joy that will help change the human condition on this planet.

Countless Blessings!

Michelle

Choosing Peace, and Love In Times of Conflict

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Is it me, or does it feel like the world is unraveling and going mad?  Perhaps it’s that I so rarely watch the news because it makes my mind, body and soul hurt.  But I recently watched a news article from Scott Pelley, CBS news, reporting that there are 41 wars going on throughout the world.  My mind simply cannot comprehend that level of violence and human suffering.

I know it’s out there and that it exists.  I know because I have friends in the middle east and in the Ukraine who live with terror and uncertainty every day.  They’ve lost loved ones, and they are grieving.

I know because I work with clients from around the world, many who are personally impacted by war and personal conflicts.  But for some reason, it all sort of came crashing into my awareness  like a tsunami of information and emotional overload.

I will be honest, a big part of me felt so overwhelmed and helpless to effect change, that it made me cry.  For several days, I thought, “What’s the point of anything that I’m doing?  It’s not making a difference!”

And then I got a grip, and decided that I was not going to allow that nasty virus of emotional and mental thinking to get the best of me.  Because I know that I make a difference – and so do you!

To me, it feels like the conflicts are getting bigger and scarier.  I don’t say this to spread more fear and distress.  Just the opposite.  Because when we are faced with what appears to be a global virus of terrorism and conflict that we don’t have much control over, we have to decide here and now what we CAN do to make a difference in our tiny little corners of the world.

We have to hold the counterpoint to the evil and the madness that seems to be infecting and gripping the hearts, minds and souls of men and women throughout the world.  We have to choose – powerfully and perhaps more profoundly – that place of Love and Light and Peace.

Now more than ever, it is imperative that we find a way to center and ground ourselves so that we are immune to the virus and entrainment of war and conflict.   We cannot allow ourselves to be negatively influenced by the collective craziness, because if we do, we become a part of the problem, rather than part of the solution.

rainbowIt is time to stand in the truth of who we are and exercise our spiritual integrity.  Every single day, we must start off the day with some type of spiritual hygiene.  For me, it is doing my Prep to Work process to clear out the effects of the world energies and any impact from anything around me and my loved ones.

Then I do my energy exercise routine with cross-crawls, brain buttons, Cook’s hook-ups and other energetic activations.  Then I spend a few minutes meditating and asking for guidance for the day.

If I have anything come up during the day, I immediately take a few minutes to clear it out, rather than letting that energy sit in my field to create, attract or broadcast out into the world anything I don’t want to create or attract.

And I end the day with a very similar routine, giving thanks and appreciation for all that has been given to me and for the incredible life journey I am on.

I have found that if I don’t take the few minutes every morning and evening to do these very practical spiritual practices, I don’t feel well.  I don’t function well.  But most importantly, I cannot be an effective leader or person.  And that is not OK with me!

What rituals do you do every day that help bring more Light, Love and Peace into the world?  If you don’t have one, I urge you to start now.

In his book, Power vs Force, David Hawkins very clearly states that a person who is resonating at a frequency of Love (600 or higher on a scale of 0-1000) counter-balances the effects of negative frequencies for millions of people.

Now more than ever, it is critical that we do our personal work and release any old energies that are limiting our abilities to hold more Light, Love and Ascension level frequencies. With our knowledge of how to do that with all of the healing modalities and technologies we have, especially the Quantum Soul Clearing Process, we are automatically called upon to be in service to the world.

So at this time, I am sending out a clarion call to all Holders of the Light to shine, to transmit and share your love, your light and your gifts into the world.  Let’s set an intention here and now that we will project peace and love daily into war-torn areas of the world to help cool down the conflicts and hold space for peaceful resolutions.

We do have an extraordinary impact in the world.  We are either adding to the suffering or creating healing solutions for everyone.  We have personal choice and the personal freedom to make a profound difference in the world.  I challenge you to BE that difference now.

Want to help me create a tsunami of hope, peace, love and joy?   We can do something to help ourselves, our loved ones and every person on the planet.  Click here to access two complementary audio clearings that will help clear out the frequencies of war and violence.

Struggle and the Energy of Change – Part IV

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We’ve been talking about the energy of struggle and its hidden and not-so-hidden impact in our lives.  Struggle has been part of our individual and collective experiences since the beginning of life here on this planet.

Yet the energy of struggle is one that keeps us stuck, in pain and fearful about the future.  It brings great resistance to the energy, even the thought, of change and our ability to simply let go and move forward.

In a recent session with a client, I was shown just how deep the fear of change is for almost everyone – and what is lurking underneath change and fueling that deep fear and

resistance.  I have to admit it shocked me!

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard clients say, “I just hate change!  I don’t do change well.”

When I’ve asked why, people have responded with, “I feel like if I make a change, it won’t be the right one – and then what will happen?”  Or, “If I make the necessary changes, am I really up to the challenge?  Am I good enough/smart enough/talented enough to handle it?”

People question whether they will be a success or a failure. (Both of those fears bring their own flavor of anxiety.)   They often wonder if the changes will even make a difference.  They are concerned that the little they already have might be taken away and then they’ll be left with nothing at all, if they make changes.

hope love dream faith trustWe can live with the devil we know, because we’ve been doing it.  But we’re not so sure that the devil we don’t know is any better.

What was revealed to me during that client’s session, is the deep distrust that things will actually change.  The resistance to change is about mistrusting that God or the Universe – or even you! – has your best interests at heart.

We feel that we’ve been lied to.  That the more we’ve changed, the more things stay the same.  We’ve put our trust in ourselves, in various gurus, or the church, or the system, or ourselves, and when we don’t see measurable results, we feel betrayed!  We’ve put our faith in something bigger than ourselves and we feel we’ve been let down and betrayed because the results have not met our expectations.

That betrayal seems to be the key to the resistance in feeling comfortable to make any changes.  And yet, we know we cannot stay where we’re at, because it’s not working and it’s just too painful.  And therein lies the biggest conundrum of all!

Pain, or even more pain because of betrayal. Whew! What a choice!

But what if circumstances and the energy of this new paradigm will now support your changes?

What if you can excavate the energy and the pain of past failures, betrayals and shattered dreams, to find the hidden treasure chest of what can be cleared and released, so that the new, higher energies available to us can actually support our dreams and desires?

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How cool would THAT be??

One of the biggest keys to change is taking the time and effort to look within yourself, to dig deep, and discover what disappointments, fears, betrayals and damage happened as other choices you made resulted in less-than-stellar results.

Then you have the opportunity to release that old energy so that you have a clean slate from which to create.  Use the Quantum Soul Clearing Process™ to clear anything that you find.  Make sure you clear the energy of struggle and how it pertains to change.  Use your own wording, or use that phrase, which ever feels more relevant.

Once the clearing work is completed around your particular area of change and struggle, then you can re-examine the changes that you feel you need to make.  Does it feel like you have more options for change?  Can you see a clearer path to reach your objectives?  Can you accomplish your goals with just a small tweak – or do you need to make even greater changes?  Can you feel how much easier it feels to make those changes?  Everything looks different after you do your clearing work.

You can do this.  I believe in you.  And if you need extra help, I’m here to help.

In fact, between now and May 5th, I’m offering a spring special on private session work.  All private session packages are 25% off!  Send us an email to Support@QuantumSoulClearing.com to start the process, and book your complimentary discovery session.

Here’s to releasing struggle and being able to make changes much more easily!

 

Are You Programmed to HAVE to Struggle – Part II

woman-struggling-unhappyEarlier this month I introduced the hidden program of “I have to struggle.”  This insidious, pervasive, unseen program is often at the root of much of our personal pain.

I want to explore this unconscious belief that you have to struggle, how you can begin to recognize it and remove it.  This is so important, because almost every human being has this disempowering program running in the background, and very few are aware of just how impactful it is!

But most of all, I want to help you understand just how intricately woven it is into almost every aspect of your life so that you can become conscious of it and nip it in the bud.  I believe you can begin to eliminate struggle as a core operating system in your life.  It is through clarity that you create freedom and can reinvent and re-create your life.

This week, I want to take a peek into how struggle is impacting your money.  Let’s look at some of the ways the hidden programs of struggle.

There are millions of people who struggle every day just for survival.  They work in low-paying jobs that they hate.  They work long hours and can barely make ends meet.  Millions of people and families are one or two paychecks away from homelessness and they worry how they will buy groceries and keep the utilities on.

I’ve been there personally, too.  Looking back, I remember the shame I felt about my working situations and the terror that was a constant companion.  I was a single mom with two teenage children.  I was barely recovering from being bed-ridden for two years with crippling rheumatoid arthritis, when I decided I could no longer remain in a broken marriage.  I had no job and was on disability, and knew that I’d never make it on the minimal money I had coming in.

I knew I had to do something – and quick.  I’d love to tell you that the next day I found a pot of money and I lived happily ever after, but that would be a lie.  Instead, I did what everyone running struggle programming does:  I found a low-paying job that barely kept a roof over my family’s head and was physically difficult for me to perform!

The program of struggle kept me in survival mode.  I was constantly in lack financially, and my body was under a great deal of stress.  I knew I wasn’t well-suited to the job, but figured “beggars can’t be choosers!”  (Hint:  That’s another struggle program!)

That job was filled with struggle – long hours in the sun, climbing up and down hills, while my body was still beginning to recover, and trying to learn entire new computer systems and a whole new set of job skills!  However, it also got me back into the work force, and gave me the confidence to look for other work that was more financially rewarding and more suited to my abilities.

My next job working in the telecommunications industry was almost three times the salary as my previous position.  But I still hadn’t resolved the underlying belief of struggle.  So I manifested a slave-driver as a boss and a company that viewed their employees as disposable resources that could be used up and thrown out at any time.  My stress levels were off the charts!

Because of the extreme stress, my health began to suffer again.  I would wake up in a cold sweat and sheer panic at 2 a.m. every night wondering how I was going to keep my job and raise my kids.  I was short tempered and controlling at home because I was exhausted and my body was in a lot of pain.  I didn’t know any better way to cope.

Ultimately, I got some counseling and learned new ways of lowering my stress levels.  As my stress levels came down, my pain levels also went down and I felt like I began to thrive.  And still I didn’t recognize just how ingrained the program of “I have to struggle” was in every facet of my life.  But I had learned how to cope more efficiently.

Perhaps you can relate to this scenario.  Or perhaps you have your own unique way of believing you have to struggle.

It has taken me years to discover this hidden program and I’d like to help you find a shortcut to eliminate this destructive program if possible.  I believe it is truly at the root of much of our pain and suffering.

So what how does the program of struggle show up in your life?  What does it look like?  Are you even aware that you’re struggling.  Most people have a sense that they do struggle at some level, but aren’t aware of how all-encompassing it is.

Here are some things to think about as you explore this program more deeply:

  • woman-overwhelmed-strugglingDo you procrastinate and put things off until you are in crisis?
  • Do you find yourself having challenge after challenge after challenge?
  • If so, do you feel triumphant after you’ve overcome each obstacle only to have something else pop up soon?  (Hint:  This can also be tied into an addiction of triumphing.  Using conflict and challenges to create an emotional and spiritual high.)
  • How often do you feel like you have to rob “Peter to pay Paul” throughout the month?
  • When was the last time you felt like you could breathe deeply and relax because things were going to be OK?
  • Do you experience having an abundance of money only to find that the hot water heater goes out or that the car needs to be fixed – and there goes that extra abundance?
  • Do you find yourself kvetching about how bad traffic was on the way to work?
  • Is your attitude on the darker side – feeling pessimistic about life in general and some things in particular?
  • Are you at odds or in active conflict with your family, friends, or co-workers?
  • Do you make a big deal out of 1st World problems – your food didn’t come fast enough, your cell phone service dropped your call again, you just can’t find anything to wear in your already full closet, etc.?
  • Is everything generally good in your life, but you’re still not satisfied or happy?
  • Do you feel tense and irritable more often than not?

These are just a few of the ways that we can identify whether we are actively running the hidden program of “I have to struggle” in our lives.

Now, to be clear, not everything goes smoothly every day.  That would be unrealistic.  And everyone is entitled feel their feelings when something doesn’t go according to expectations!  That’s normal.  There’s nothing wrong with truly feeling your feelings.  In fact, it is IMPERATIVE that you feel them clearly, deeply and strongly!  Because feelings are the soul’s way of speaking to you.

But how you react to the things that show up in your life will give you big clues as how much this program of struggling is affecting you.  “Having to struggle” programming makes us feel disconnected, anxious, unworthy and overwhelmed.  Wouldn’t you like to feel better?    Did you know that you DON’T have to struggle?  Did you know it is even possible to change the energy of struggle?

So here’s my challenge:  Notice how you are feeling!  Write your feelings down.  Notice and record when you feel tense, anxious, irritable, unhappy.  What are the circumstances and events that trigger those feelings? Don’t judge those feelings!  Just take note and begin to watch for patterns that begin to emerge.  Listen to your intuition and insights.

Also notice what makes you happy or brings you a sense of peace and serenity.  Notice when you feel connected and aligned.  What makes you laugh and what uplifts you?

Keep a journal or a daily notebook so that you can begin to connect the dots.  Especially notice and keep track of the ways you feel about your finances and money.  This is the area in which  most people struggle the most!  Notice all the ways you feel uncomfortable when you spend, or when you can’t spend.  Identify the ways you feel conflicted about money in any way!  Pay attention to the inner voices that “talk to you” about your money and write down the words.

Then join me April 3rd at 5:00 p.m. PT/ 6:00 p.m. MT/ 7:00 p.m. CT/ 8:00 p.m. ET for a free training call as we explore this subject more fully.  To register for this free training class, click here to reserve your seat.  Space is limited, so register early.

I look forward to “seeing” you there!

Next month, we will explore ways that you can begin to resolve and release the negative struggle programming that you’ve identified and are experiencing.   It’s time to release the old, hidden struggle programs, so that you can easily and powerfully manifest your goals and dreams.

Here’s to the start of your journey to freedom from struggle.  I can hardly wait to see what you create as you begin to release struggle and step into ease, flow and grace.