The Magic of Christmas: What do those words bring to mind?

23536819_sFor me it is the wonder and the anticipation of miracles, large and small, that happen.  It is the beauty of the music, the lights, and the frequencies of good will and kindness that permeates the air at this time of year.  It’s good food and the warmth of family and friends.

For me, the magic of Christmas evokes a tale I heard from my grandfather who was a veteran of WWI.  I remember a Christmas where, he told me the story of a miracle that he experienced in the middle of a war-torn country.

There had been hard fighting between the Germans and the English and Americans.  Many men died on the battle field and in the trenches.  The landscape was stark, barren and pock-marked by craters caused by artillery shells.  At dark, on Christmas Eve, a cease fire was called, and the wounded and dead were retrieved from the no-man’s land between the embattled soldiers trenches.

And then, from the German trenches, a single voice could be heard, “Silent Night, Holy Night…”  One voice after another – from both sides – joined in that sacred song from both sides of the battlefield.  A white flag was raised on each side.  Soon men were emerging from their trenches and making their way across the battlefield to shake the hands of their bitter enemies they had been shooting at just hours earlier.  An unofficial cease-fired was  reached for just a few hours between battle-weary soldiers who chose to honor the season of peace, love and light – even in the midst of a terrible war.

Each time I hear the peaceful hymn of Silent Night, I cannot help but think of that story and the miracle of a cease fire for a whole day, as sworn enemies laid down their weapons, shook hands, and allowed in the energy and compassion that represents the message of Christmas:  peace, good will, love, and hope of a new day.

miracles-just-aheadWhat miracle are you expecting this year?  What magic is trying to show itself in your life?  Are you open to seeing and experiencing these Spirit-filled events?  Can you – will you –  allow yourself to receive and experience the precious gifts of time and of being present to the wonder of this season so you can see all the miracles that are unfolding around you?  And how can you perhaps ignite a small miracle for someone?

Try taking some time each day to really look around you.  Notice the people around you.  See them with the fresh eyes of a child.  Perhaps you might discover someone who could use a kind word, an unexpected cup of coffee, or a tiny, surprise token to brighten their world.

What random act of kindness can you give as your miracle to the world this month?  It doesn’t have to cost much, if anything.  It can be the miracle of your smile.  A compliment to a stranger, an unexpected gift for a child.  It could be the gift of your time and money to a shelter, food pantry or soup kitchen.  There is plenty of need in this world that can be allayed by some form of giving.

Some of the magic of the season, I think, is in the giving.  The energy, the frequency of giving, paves the way for receiving.  What are you willing to allow and receive?  More love, more kindness, more self-expression, more financial abundance, more of everything?

There is something just so delicious about the anticipation of something joyful and perhaps a bit mystical that is awaiting us just around the corner.  It is an expectation that anything is possible and in that expectation, the Universe is willing to step up and deliver!

Let’s really connect and play in that expectant anticipation and magic of the Christmas Season starting right now.

Wishing you and your family great joy, peace, vibrant health, infinite prosperity, and a very Merry Christmas!

The High Cost of Not Practicing Good Self-Care

Low self esteemUp to now we’ve been talking about the different ways that hidden low-self worth programs may be sabotaging your life. Today I want to talk about really taking good care of yourself and what that looks like.

If you have hidden self-worth programs impacting you, you might be struggling with feelings of worthiness, not deserving good things, or believing that for whatever reason you should just settle for what life brings you, we need to talk! You may be unconsciously setting yourself up for burn out, exhaustion, unhappiness, feeling unsatisfied and disconnected, and even significant health problems.

Those little nuggets of self-defeating energy in your brain and body may be interfering with how well you practice good self-care. It was so apparent to me during my recent women’s retreat in Hawaii, that I have had a very significant – and very hidden – self-worth program running that had been preventing me from relaxing and enjoying my life! I would like to share a little bit of my new personal awareness about self-care (or my lack thereof!) with you to help illustrate how important self-care is to your full well-being and happiness.

Let me preface this realization with how I believed that I had been practicing pretty good self-care. Sure, I knew that there were times that I didn’t get quite enough sleep or exercise. That I hadn’t had a real vacation in over 15 years! That I put others’ needs before my own. But I could rationalize that I was busy, people needed me, I had things to accomplish. And then I’d take some time for myself. I’d take time off and get extra rest, connect with Nature, see friends, take in a movie, and relax with a good book. I felt virtuous that I eat well and have a good daily spiritual routine. And so I believed I was taking good care of myself.

I arrived a day early for my retreat at Lumeria Maui so that I could rest and be fully present for the week of transformation that I was coming to experience. After unpacking and hanging my belongings and getting something to eat, I made my way to the lovely deck that was just outside my room. I decided that I would spend some time meditating and centering before I went for the massage I had booked so that I would be pre-relaxed and able to absorb the healing energy of the massage.

The beautiful grove of pine trees, gently whispering in the slight breeze just off the deck area, immediately brought me to a state of soothed peacefulness. I could feel years of un-acknowledged tension beginning to unwind from my muscles and tissues, as I closed my eyes and began connecting to my Highest Self within. The sensation was absolutely delicious! The stillness of the grounds, the smells, shapes and colors of the different plant varieties, and the view of the ocean peeking through the trees brought me to a place of internal quietude that I had not been able to match at home.

As I sat there I could feel the individual cells in my body give a sigh of relief as they gave up their tension and their perceived need to be doing anything at all. I could literally feel something deep within me begin a long, slow, unwind, and I contemplated the real meaning of “vacation unwind” and how important it is.

20131025_180331As I continued to feel my body, mind and soul more fully unwinding and relaxing deeper and deeper into the feeling of Oneness, I began reflecting on how long it had actually been since I had experienced that particular level of deep inner peacefulness. I realized that it had been many, many years since I felt that level of contentment. Suddenly, I realized that I had only been giving lip-service to taking good care of myself. I realized in that moment just how depleted I’d allowed myself to become. And then the tears came.

Because I was under the illusion that I was taking just good care of myself, I was shocked to realized that it wasn’t really true! The level of self-care that I thought I’d been practicing was not nearly enough! I vowed, right then and there, to become more mindful of how I was actually treating myself and how much time I allowed myself to simply BE at different times of the day.

Of course, being away at a specific event that is designed to take you out of the everyday hustle and bustle is one thing – and being back in that everyday energy is quite another. But my experiences there gave me a deeper understanding of how precious the time we take for ourselves really is. And just how imperative it is to take exceptional care of ourselves!

Please, take a long, deep, hard look at how well you are really treating yourself. I don’t want you to beat yourself up if you find that your level of self-care isn’t stellar. I want this to be a very gentle nudge to see how you might have unconscious programming that might be interfering with your ultimate well-being. If there’s room for improvement, then take steps to make a few changes. If you are doing well in this area, please give yourself a huge hug acknowledgement acknowledge that accomplishment.

Let’s look at just a few of the areas where most of us tend to cut corners.

Do you REALLY get enough sleep? Are you getting the required eight hours of sleep that will allow you all the sleep cycles to fully run? If not, you are cheating your body of the ability to repair and balance itself. Also, did you know that if you are not getting into bed by 10 p.m. that you are working against your body’s natural rhythms and disrupting your hormone balances? This is a BIG one! Studies have proven that the two hours before midnight are worth more than four hours after midnight in quality of sleep and their impact on the physiology!

bigstock-Stressed-248446Are you eating the right foods? How much of your diet is dedicated to keeping you unnaturally stimulated? Do you depend on that cup (or more) of coffee in the morning to get you going? Do you binge on carbohydrates so that your blood sugar is revved up and then crashes, so that you start the cycle all over again throughout the day? Are you getting enough protein so that your cells can replicate properly and repair your body’s systems? Are you getting several servings of dark leafy greens throughout the day to alkalize and recharge your body? Have you gotten rid of soft drinks yet? (They are not really a food form, you know. And they are extremely dangerous to your bones, heart and brain.)

If you are eating the right foods that are designed to nourish your body, are you actually in the right frame of mind while you are eating, that will allow your body to relax and absorb the nutrition? This is so crucial to a fully nourished body! If you are not relaxed and focused on what you are eating, your body is more than likely to be in fight, flight or freeze, which means that you physically cannot digest your food and absorb the nutrition! Not only that, your adrenal glands are pumping out cortisol that is causing massive inflammation throughout your body, creating weight around the belly, and setting you up for an adrenal crash – not something you want to ever experience!

That means that if you are eating on the run, or very quickly, your body cannot utilize the food you just inhaled. Additionally, if you are not thoroughly chewing your food into miniscule particles, you are not preparing your entire gastric system to handle the food you’ve eaten. Your stomach and intestines have to work extremely hard to absorb the little nutrition it can.

If you have undigested food in your poop (please do check!) you are probably only receiving 10 -15% of the nutrition you think you are getting. That means you are sabotaging your metabolism a second time (adrenals spewing out cortisol is the first way). Because the body cannot absorb nutrients from undigested food and if it is in stress mode (aka “fight, flight or freeze”), it is going to hold onto every single calorie it can and store it for future use. And you are more likely to binge eat, because your body is actually starving for nutrition! (As a note, by purposefully relaxing and consciously focusing on my food, I’ve lost 8 pounds in two weeks, feel for satiated and have better energy! And I have not changed one thing in my diet, nor added any additional exercise.)

Additionally, undigested food is stored in the intestinal tract far longer than well-digested food because it is harder to move through the bowels. That means it is putrefying and causing unhealthy fungal and bacterial over-growth issues – also adding to weight problems. It can also cause intestinal permeability issues which can cause auto-immune disorders. So please slow down, be conscious of what you are actually eating, and chew your food thoroughly.

bigstock-Meditation-1931400 Are you taking time out to meditate, pray, or have some type of spiritual practice and/or alone time? This is critical to your health and well-being. And tough to do sometimes! However, this time out helps you re-center, find balance, find your connection to yourself and to the Divine. It is a time that allows you to slow down your mind, rest your nervous system and get out of chronic stress, allowing your entire body to relax, recharge, restart and unwind. This is most critical for brain health.

If you don’t have a specific spiritual practice, you can reconnect by taking a walk in nature, taking a 15-20 minute nap during the middle of the day, taking a long hot bath, or simply finding a quiet space with no one in it and closing your eyes while you allow your body to relax. Follow your breathing. Just allow yourself to BE with yourself. Notice your body’s physical sensations. If there is discomfort, ask it what it is trying to tell you. Hear it without any judgment or trying to control the discomfort. Just allow it all to be what it is. Make the discomfort your friend. Then allow the discomfort to release. If there’s peace, allow peace and well-being to expand.

Are you treating yourself like your very best friend or a lover would? Sounds like a funny question, but often we are our own worst critics! Treat yourself to fresh flowers, a walk in the park, a special treat of some kind. Take yourself to the movies, to dinner, to lunch. Buy yourself a small treat or present – even if it’s not completely in the “budget.” Talk nicely to yourself. Say things like, “You look beautiful today.” “You have such gorgeous skin!” “Honey you are looking HOT!” “You are so smart!” And make it sincere.

In fact, if you want to feel better about yourself, keep a journal and find a minimum of three things every single day that you really like about yourself. Here’s the challenge: Every day you must find something new to say – no repeats! Allow yourself to appreciate and glory in the unique, beautiful, delicious, fabulousness of who you really are! Learn to fall in love with yourself. You’ll feel better and others will be attracted to you like magic!

Let yourself off the hook. I don’t know a woman out there that doesn’t hold themselves to a very high standard. An impossible standard. You are beautiful just the way you are. You are intelligent, talented, good enough, thin enough, capable enough and strong enough for anything and anyone. Allow yourself to laugh at your mistakes (or learning opportunities), forgive yourself and move on.

facialsRelax and allow yourself to simply feel your feelings. There is no such thing as a wrong feeling! All of us feel helpless, hopeless, broken, depressed, unlovable, unhappy, etc., at times during our lives. It’s an illusion! I can’t say this long enough or loud enough: THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!! You don’t need to be fixed, healed or saved. God/Goddess/Source loves you more than you know. If you don’t like the feelings, identify what you DO want to feel. Use the Quantum Soul Clearing process to move the energy and help you create the life you really want to live. You are in control. Don’t let anyone tell you differently. You are a Master Creator! And you are MAGNIFICENT!

These are just a few of the many ways that we can practice self-care. I’m sure you can think of hundreds of ways that you can love, support and enjoy yourself more fully. Please take the time to implement those things. Life is short. It is meant to be experienced and lived. And if you are depleted because you are lacking in self-care, it makes it impossible to live fully and achieve what you’ve come here to do. Please don’t rob us of your magnificence. The world needs you, your gifts and your talents!

And if you need help uncovering that magnificence or finding balance, I am always here for you.

Sheila Gale and I talk about fear and limiting beliefs Today!

Does fear  and anxiety – conscious or unconscious – prevent you from moving forward toward your goals, dreams and desires?

sheila-galePlease join me today on The Sheila Gale Show and learn how your subconscious fears may be sabotaging all areas of your life and limiting your life potential.  On this interview, Sheila and I will go through a healing activation and alignment process to shatter the glass ceilings of fear and anxiety.

Tune in LIVE and discover a tool that you can use throughout your life to eliminate all types of fear and anxiety and feel empowered to live the life you truly desire.

Here are the details….

Tuesday, May 21st @3PM Pacific/6PM Eastern

Click here to listen in

On this call…

  • Learn how to recognize YOUR glass ceiling of subconscious beliefs and shatter it forever – in under 15 minutes!
  • Discover how your limiting beliefs and subconscious programming are sabotaging you in the work place and limiting your earning potential – often by millions of dollars!
  • Experience a very simple alignment and reconnecting technique that will immediately increase your energy, your mental clarity and connection with your intuition.
  • Understand how your underlying fears of being seen and heard keep you playing small and cost you thousands of dollars every year.
  • Understand how to connect with your Infinite Wisdom and harness the power of the Universe to easily magnetize your goals.

I hope you will join me!  

QSC Tips for Greater Success: Managing Interference

In the past month I’ve become aware of some additional interference that many people are experiencing in different ways. Some of the symptoms are: increased irritability; headaches; more joint and muscle pain – feeling like you’ve been hit by the proverbial “Mack truck;” a feeling of being squeezed or pressure building, increased anxiety and fears; wanting to hideout or withdraw; extreme fatigue; restlessness; anger or rage; and feeling out of control.

No one likes to experience energy and emotions that feel unpleasant or that we judge as negative. Here are some things to help you shift the energy and feel better immediately:

  • Quit judging yourself for having “negativity” in your life. Feelings are simply a signal to tell you whether are aligned with your true Self or not.  If you feel unhappy, you are out of alignment.  Take a moment to re-connect.
  • Get as centered as possible and ask if what you are feeling is even your emotions! (Hint: It probably isn’t.)
  • Take a few deep, calming breaths.
  • Use the Quantum Soul Clearing Preparation to Work statement and/or audio track from any of the audio programs you may already own. Make sure you are centered and connected with your Divine Core Center first.
  • Please note that there have been some new additions to the Prep to Work statements that may not be in your audio tracks. Please make sure you add them either out loud or silently to yourself.
  • If you are in the membership program, there is a new Prep to Work audio track that will be available this month as part of your member benefits!

The Joys and Angsts of Motherhood

Happy Mother's DayI’ve been a mother for 34 years this year.  I can honestly say that it has been the toughest job I’ve ever had – and the most rewarding.  Motherhood, for the most part, is a 24/7 complicated job – made more difficult by the feelings that most mothers experience of not doing it right or “perfectly.”

After beating up on myself for so many years for not being a perfect mother, I’ve come to realize that there is no such things as the “Perfect Mother.”  In fact, there is no written rule book, no special instructions when you become a mother.  Yes, there are magazine articles, blog posts, and even some books that can give you parenting tips.  However, because each child and each mother is uniquely different, there is no one recipe that fits all relationships.

What I experienced as a mother was the  sheer terror of wondering if I was completely ruining my children’s lives every time I made a parenting decision.  I had a deep fear that I just wasn’t up to the tasks that come with motherhood.  That was compounded by the fact that I also struggled with a disabling disease that made me wonder at times if I’d live to see them grown.  I worried that I wasn’t able to give them everything they needed – the right schools, the right clothes, the right home in the right neighborhood, blah, blah, blah, blah…. You get the picture.

I also experienced the sheer joy of knowing and loving the amazing, unique Beings that my children are.  I watched in awe as they developed their unique gifts and talents.  I took great pride and delight in watching my daughters take their first steps, learn to read, learn to ride a bike, experience their first day of school, excel at music, at school, at skiing and snowboarding, fall in love, fall out of love, graduate from school, get that first job, fall back in love again, get married, and then have children of their own – along with every milestone in between.

I’ve watched in wonder and pride as they grew into incredible young women in their own rights.  It has been one of the most incredible gifts and experiences I’ve ever had.

Motherhood isn’t easy.  Often, you yearn for the difficult times to be over (whether that’s a moment, a day or years) – and then you yearn to have all that time back, once they’ve grown and left your home.

Your roles change throughout the years: sole care-giver, cheer-leader, teacher, cook, confidant, antagonist, chauffer, seamstress, disciplinarian, banker, jailer, doctor, nurse, guardian, protector, and hundreds of other titles and roles.  Great mothers are always willing to do the hard work.  While they would like to be their children’s best friend, they also know that sometimes, they have to be the heavy in order to provide appropriate boundaries and keep their children safe.

Motherhood will bring up your deepest fears and feelings of personal inadequacy.  I have yet to meet a mother who hasn’t wondered if somehow she’s a failure.  The role of motherhood is definitely not for the faint of heart.  But it is for the courageous and for those seeking great adventure.

If you find yourself feeling inadequate, fearful, out of your comfort zone – all those deep dark feelings that only motherhood can generate – I would like to suggest you take a few minutes for yourself.  Get centered and take some deep breaths.  Go within and give yourself a big hug of compassion and understanding.  If you need to, do a Quantum Soul Clearing Process to release the negative feelings and judgments that you’re experiencing.  Make sure to practice radical self-forgiveness and self-compassion.  Know that you are not alone.  Know that the Divine loves you no matter what.

I’m am so grateful for my own mother and the amazing women I’ve called grandmother.  I am fortunate to have had such beautiful, intelligent, compassionate, loving women teach me how to become a good human being, and a good mother.  Without their guidance and role modeling, I wouldn’t be where I am today.

I want to take the opportunity to honor all the Mothers of the world.  I want to honor you for all you do.  I know the challenges you face and want you to know I value your contribution to the world.  The children you are raising will be the next generation of scientists, doctors, healers, teachers, innovators, leaders, farmers, etc.  You are helping to mold the future of our world.  My hat is off to you!  Keep up the great work.

How Was the December 21, 2012 Shift for You?

I have a question for you:  Did the Shift that occurred on December 21, 2012 change your life the way you thought it would?  Have things been different for you in a good way?  Or have things appeared to become more challenging?  Or does it appear that nothing at all is any different?  Have you wondered if you’ve been “left behind?”


Whether you know it or not, things have changed in a big way!

While we have moved into the new paradigm, for many people, there appears to be a lag time in experiencing the peace and empowerment that we all expected.

I have personally experienced some interesting challenges myself!  I even found myself judging myself for not “having it all together!”  What I finally realized is that there was still some inner “stuff” that needs to be released.  And it’s coming up quickly in order to be healed.


What I am seeing, energetically, is a massive swell of energy – much like a tsunami.  And like a tsunami, as the waters rush in, everything in its path is being shifted, and moved, dislodging tenuous foundations that aren’t rooted in the frequency of this paradigm and  pushing to the surface everything that no longer serves us.  In some ways, we are being forced to look at everything that is not a match to our true, aligned selves.

Because the multi-dimensional part of us has already made this shift, and has done so easily and fully (because for the most part it is out of body), as this tsunami moves in and brings everything  to the surface,  it feels even worse that it did prior to the shift!  What has made things feel even more painful is our expectations that after the shift everything would gently and easily fall into place and we’d be living our lives happily ever after!

However, what I have found is that since it is all up and “in our faces,” we can now simply and easily remove it – much like skimming off pond-scum to reveal the cool, fresh, clean, deep water below.

In actuality, the pain and challenges we have experienced are a gift.  (I know they don’t feel like gifts!!)  They are showing very clearly the next unconscious beliefs that need to be released and healed in order for us to create heaven on earth.  


There is still much to be done.  However, if you are like so many people with whom I have spoken over the last few weeks, you probably feel like just crawling into bed and giving up.  Or perhaps you may feel too exhausted to even think about doing any more work.  And you wonder and fear how much longer this will continue and how you will be able to pull out of this painful energy.  For many, it feels like an overwhelming task to even get out of bed some days!  How on earth can you possibly even think about adding one more thing and work through one more emotion on your own?

Or perhaps you feel like you’ve moved through the chaos and confusion, and are feeling a better, and you are now ready to truly create the life you’ve always desired!  


No matter where you are on the spectrum of transformation, I have decided to do something to powerfully uplift and transform the energy!  I’m starting  an eight-week group program to help you  – to help each of us – move through this energy, and create the joyous, centered, empowered life you want to create for yourself and your family.  I’ll lead and facilitate the work as we meet each week.  Together we will heal and transform.  You no longer have to do it alone!

This Quantum Soul Clearing 8-week transformational course begins Tuesday, January 29th, at 3:00 p.m. PT/ 4:00 p.m. MT/  5:00 p.m. CT/ 6:00 p.m. ET, and will run until March 19th.  Each call will run approximately 90-120 minutes.  And, of course, each call will be recorded for replay and download immediately if for some reason you cannot make the call in person.

The cost of this 8-week group coaching program is $399.  However, if you act quickly, between now and January 23rd, and use the coupon code of ICHOOSEME you’ll receive $100 off this powerful eight-week program.

Imagine spending 90 minutes every week for eight full weeks as we meet as a group to weed-out the most pressing, painful emotions and beliefs so that we can increase our personal energy, create greater personal empowerment, and deep fulfillment in our lives!  Imagine spending time every week finding your joy, your purpose and passion for life again – or perhaps for the first time ever!  How valuable would that be?

Because I want to be able to make this a powerful experience for everyone in the group, I am limiting the number that can participate, to only 30 people.  That way everyone will have a chance to work with me personally for laser-focused coaching that profoundly and powerfully impacts the whole group!  Seats are extremely limited, so don’t miss out on this opportunity to make a big shift that will impact the rest of 2013 and beyond.

And don’t forget to add the early-bird coupon code ICHOOSEME to save $100!

Here’s to a transformed 2013 and powerful new beginning.

Many Blessings,

Michelle Manning-Kogler