Struggle and the Energy of Change – Part IV


We’ve been talking about the energy of struggle and its hidden and not-so-hidden impact in our lives.  Struggle has been part of our individual and collective experiences since the beginning of life here on this planet.

Yet the energy of struggle is one that keeps us stuck, in pain and fearful about the future.  It brings great resistance to the energy, even the thought, of change and our ability to simply let go and move forward.

In a recent session with a client, I was shown just how deep the fear of change is for almost everyone – and what is lurking underneath change and fueling that deep fear and

resistance.  I have to admit it shocked me!

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard clients say, “I just hate change!  I don’t do change well.”

When I’ve asked why, people have responded with, “I feel like if I make a change, it won’t be the right one – and then what will happen?”  Or, “If I make the necessary changes, am I really up to the challenge?  Am I good enough/smart enough/talented enough to handle it?”

People question whether they will be a success or a failure. (Both of those fears bring their own flavor of anxiety.)   They often wonder if the changes will even make a difference.  They are concerned that the little they already have might be taken away and then they’ll be left with nothing at all, if they make changes.

hope love dream faith trustWe can live with the devil we know, because we’ve been doing it.  But we’re not so sure that the devil we don’t know is any better.

What was revealed to me during that client’s session, is the deep distrust that things will actually change.  The resistance to change is about mistrusting that God or the Universe – or even you! – has your best interests at heart.

We feel that we’ve been lied to.  That the more we’ve changed, the more things stay the same.  We’ve put our trust in ourselves, in various gurus, or the church, or the system, or ourselves, and when we don’t see measurable results, we feel betrayed!  We’ve put our faith in something bigger than ourselves and we feel we’ve been let down and betrayed because the results have not met our expectations.

That betrayal seems to be the key to the resistance in feeling comfortable to make any changes.  And yet, we know we cannot stay where we’re at, because it’s not working and it’s just too painful.  And therein lies the biggest conundrum of all!

Pain, or even more pain because of betrayal. Whew! What a choice!

But what if circumstances and the energy of this new paradigm will now support your changes?

What if you can excavate the energy and the pain of past failures, betrayals and shattered dreams, to find the hidden treasure chest of what can be cleared and released, so that the new, higher energies available to us can actually support our dreams and desires?

time for change

How cool would THAT be??

One of the biggest keys to change is taking the time and effort to look within yourself, to dig deep, and discover what disappointments, fears, betrayals and damage happened as other choices you made resulted in less-than-stellar results.

Then you have the opportunity to release that old energy so that you have a clean slate from which to create.  Use the Quantum Soul Clearing Process™ to clear anything that you find.  Make sure you clear the energy of struggle and how it pertains to change.  Use your own wording, or use that phrase, which ever feels more relevant.

Once the clearing work is completed around your particular area of change and struggle, then you can re-examine the changes that you feel you need to make.  Does it feel like you have more options for change?  Can you see a clearer path to reach your objectives?  Can you accomplish your goals with just a small tweak – or do you need to make even greater changes?  Can you feel how much easier it feels to make those changes?  Everything looks different after you do your clearing work.

You can do this.  I believe in you.  And if you need extra help, I’m here to help.

In fact, between now and May 5th, I’m offering a spring special on private session work.  All private session packages are 25% off!  Send us an email to to start the process, and book your complimentary discovery session.

Here’s to releasing struggle and being able to make changes much more easily!


Are You Programmed to HAVE to Struggle – Part III

bigstock-Young-Stress-Woman-5137388-275x183March’s theme was all about the hidden – and not so hidden – program of “I have to struggle.” I even did a training on struggle and how it shows up in our lives – and particularly in our finances.

This month I am going to take this conversation even deeper. I believe that from the beginning of life on this planet we’ve been programmed to struggle for food, for survival, for shelter – for just about everything. This program has been passed down from generation to generation from the beginning of time! It’s like an insidious virus that undermines every facet of our lives.

Even our sacred scriptures reference this subject. Adam and Eve’s “fall from grace” resulted in their bodies changing from Light-Beings to being removed from the Garden of Eden and required to toil and work hard. Even their children suffered from this curse and fall and were no longer allowed to live in the garden with God.

Science also nurtures this theme through “survival of the fittest.” That the weak are eaten by the strong. Observers of nature watch and interpret the seeds of plants as they struggle through the layers of soil to reach the sunlight, where they then have to struggle to get enough water, nutrients and sunlight to survive.

Butterflies appear to struggle to emerge from the cocoon and hatchling chicks struggle to peck through their shells. That is what we’ve been taught – that there is struggle for survival everywhere!

But what if we’ve gotten it all wrong?

What if the butterfly and the chick aren’t really struggling? What if from their perspective they are simply awakening and stretching? What if it is a game and is fun? What if that process is strengthening their bodies and their connection to Source? What if that process isn’t really struggle at all – but merely a joyous breakthrough!? A stepping into their greatness and infinite potential?

Monarch ButterflyWhat if the seeds and sprouts can’t WAIT to stretch and grow and become part of the greater eco-system, to add their light and their color and breath into the world? What if each first spear of growth that emerges from the dirt is filled with the joy, the exuberance, and the knowledge of what they are here to do and are so busy getting to it, that they experience only deep pleasure, and deep connection to both the earth and they heavens? They don’t have time to struggle – they are too busy enjoying life!

What if everything we’ve perceived as struggle in our own lives is simply an old program that no longer serves us? We are burgeoning, joyous, Light-filled Beings housed by these physical bodies and our Divine state knows no struggle – only BEING! Is it possible that we’ve gotten struggle all wrong? That’s it’s not something to be avoided at all costs? That we don’t have to have all the stress and fuss and chaos and pain in order transform and grow? What if we can easily release the old paradigm of struggle altogether?

Imagine what your life would look like if you could view struggle from a completely different perspective. Instead of dreading what appears to be hard and insurmountable, that circumstance or event is, instead, an opportunity to become stronger and healthier. More deeply connected to your innate, Divine co-creative skills. That it is an opportunity to learn more about your incredible strength, your strength of character, and your resourcefulness.

What if you could just perceive struggle as an exhilarating game of skill and mastery?

What if you could simply learn to LOVE struggle, so that is was no longer struggle but something else entirely?

Take a few minutes and write down all the beliefs you have about struggle. Life is hard. Life is unfair. Life sucks. People suck. It’s so hard to make ends meet. The world is an unfriendly place. It’s hard to move my body because I’m in so much pain…. The list is probably quite long. But sit down for a bit and pull up all your limiting beliefs about the world that involve struggle.

I’m giving you permission to dive deeply into the pool of negativity. You can always get back out, clean yourself off and feel better. It’s important to acknowledge all that “shtuff” so that you know where you’re at. REMEMBER NO JUDGMENT! Simply acknowledge that this “shtuff” is in there. And most of it probably isn’t even yours!

We’ve been told not to go into the negativity. To stay only in the positive, because we are constantly creating what we are thinking and feeling. (Heck, I’ve even told you that in the past!)

But what I’ve found is that you can’t get to where you want to be until you know where you’re at! It’s the first rule in using maps. And what you’re creating is a map of hidden beliefs that has led you down one side-road after another, rather than where you’ve wanted to go.

So what if where you are at is with a list of 10,000 negative beliefs! That just means you don’t have 10,001 negative beliefs. That’s something to be grateful for. It’s a great starting point! But seriously, you have the Quantum Soul Clearing Process that you can use to chop up this list and make mince-meat out of it. You have all kinds of transformational tools in your tool kit to get your from where you are (again NO judgment!) to where you want to be.

Consider it a game or fun challenge to see how many you can work through each day. Think about it as the most delicious journey of the soul and when you get through that list, you will have become an ascended master of your existence! Better yet, think of it as a joyous stretching of your emotional, mental and spiritual muscles that will make you strong and healthy and whole. Isn’t that worth it?

Imagine yourself facing what might appear to be adversity with a grin on your face and joy in your heart, and a willingness to roll up your sleeves and PLAY! Isn’t that better, knowing that you get to choose whether it’s really hard or not, instead of that horrible feeling of dread when you think about struggle now? How different would your life experiences be from that place of powerful choice?

There’s nothing more exhilarating than solving a puzzle or winning! Eliminating struggle is how can you make your life a complete “Win” each and every day.

So what will you choose?

How to Recognize Your Limiting Beliefs – Art of Joyful Living Radio

art_of_joyful_living_logo_2010_300pxJoin me for a lively and informative discussion this Tuesday, May 28th @ Noon ET on The Art of Joyful Living Show with hosts Cindy Briolotta and Linda Cassell.  We will be discussing how to recognize YOUR glass ceiling of subconscious beliefs and shatter it forever – in under 15 minutes!

The Art of Joyful Living Show provides listeners with insights, inspirations, tools and techniques for creating the life and business of their dreams. Previous show guests include Asara Lovejoy, Dr. Bruce Lipton, Gregg Braden, Cynthia Kersey, Dr. Susan Lord, Janet Attwood, Dr. Bernie Siegel, Marc Allen, Sonia Choquette, Jennifer McLean, Dee Wallace, Shakti Gawain, Dr. Carol Look, Sandi Radomski, and many more.

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