Do You Know What’s Really Shaping Your Reality?

Labor Day Weekend

I know that it is technically still Summer, but now it’s Labor Day weekend and that means that fall is sneaking up on us really fast!

It’s back to school and back to work. It’s shorter days and cooler nights.  It’s football games and after school activities.  It’s a feeling of being more confined, and disciplined so that you can be successful.

It’s getting the yard cleaned up, harvesting the garden, and getting it ready to be put to bed for the winter so the soil can rest and rejuvenate. (Can you tell I had a rural, farm background?  lol)

It’s funny.  I haven’t been in school or lived a farm life for years!  But that energy is so ingrained in my biological clock and in the collective, that it still impacts me to this day!

That brings me to the point of this article:

What are the patterns and programs that shaped you?

Are they positive or negative?

If some were negative, are they still active in your life – or are there still active pieces running?

And most of all, are they still serving you?

Most of us are so busy working, raising children, paying bills, and dealing with everyday life challenges, we don’t take the time to stop, examine and re-assess what it is that is really running our lives.

As you think back to childhood, what are the beliefs that you consciously or unconsciously adopted?  Have you taken the time to examine what they really are and if they are still important to you?

If you were an oldest child, and you were made to be responsible for the younger children, or made to feel responsible for everyone’s feelings, are you still doing that?

Are you carrying that fractal pattern into your personal or professional life and taking on too much responsibility while family members or co-workers should be stepping up the plate more often?

Perhaps you tell yourself it’s easier for you to just do it.  After all, you’ve been doing it all these years anyway, right?

overwhelmedBut are you also feeling overwhelmed, resentful, even angry because you are doing it all?  Perhaps you just can’t figure out how to delegate tasks, or give the authority to others who should be responsible.

That’s what I’m talking about.  That is only one example of old programming that might still be running us.  Often, there is a theme involved.  In this case, it is over responsibility.

While it does make us feel in control (admit it, you enjoy that feeling sometimes!), it also make you feel anxious.  It makes you tired and cranky sometimes too, because it feels as if the world is resting on your shoulders alone.

Where’s the help when you need it?

Now I’m not advocating you abdicate personal responsibility.  But I am suggesting that you examine this ingrained pattern and see if it still really serves you.

If it does, great!

If not, then it is time to get others on board so that they can feel the empowerment of learning new skills that give them a sense of accomplishment and worthiness.

Even getting the kids to make their beds, pick up their rooms and set the table gives them a sense of being part of the family and having chores they are capable of doing.  That builds their self-confidence and gives them a sense of accomplishment and mastery.

And the same applies to your co-workers.  Are you their emotional dumping ground?  Are you the person who unofficially takes on all the office’s emotional complaining and griping, and are then left exhausted, frustrated and out of sorts at the end of the day?

It’s the perfect time to suggest that instead of coming to you to whine, complain and emotionally unload, that they tell the person they have a problem with, or the boss instead.

Are you taking on more work in the office than you should and being overly responsible?  Now this is a little tricky, because there’s a belief in corporate life that the more you take on, the more you’ll be valued.  And there is something to that.

But if you’re taking on a number of tasks and there’s no recognition – just more dumping – then there’s a problem.

Identifying the hidden patterns and rectifying them will pay you dividends! Not taking on all the extra “shtuff” will allow you to create clearer more effective boundaries.  It will free up extra time and emotional resources so that you feel better and experience more joy.

I urge you to begin examining these hidden patterns and program for yourself.  You never know what you’ll find and just how powerful they are!

And if you get stuck, I’m always here to help!  I’m really good at uncovering those patterns that you just can’t see, so that you gain clarity and freedom.  And right now, until Sept 5th my private sessions are 50% off.

Here’s to creating new patterns of empowerment in your life!

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