The REAL Cost of Low Self Worth and Self Esteem

 

Did you know that you might be harboring a hidden low self-worth or low self-esteem program within your subconscious mind that could be wreaking havoc in your life?

Do you know how much money low self-worth or low self-esteem has cost you financially?  It could be millions of dollars!

Ask yourself this:

  • How has low self-worth undermined or sabotaged your personal relationships?
  • Is low self-worth impacting your health and well-being?
  • Is it keeping you from reaching for a bigger, more expanded life experience?
  • Is it draining your pocketbook?
The dictionary describes worth as: Excellence of character or quality which commands high regard; of usefulness or importance to the world, to a person, or for a purpose; having value.

The definition of esteem is: To regard highly or favorably, regard with respect or admiration;  a favorable opinion or judgment; respect or regard.

Self-worth, or self-esteem, is how valuable, how useful or how important we see ourselves in the world.  It is a measure of ourselves, and our belief about our intrinsic worth.
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Typically, we think of people who suffer from low self-worth or self-esteem as someone who is shy, withdrawn, and unwilling to put themselves forward.  We may envision them staying in the background, constantly yearning for something but are too afraid to ask.  And this is definitely one definition.

Interestingly, many people may not even know that they are suffering from low self-worth or self-esteem.  They may look and feel physically fit.  They may act confident at work.  They appear to be able to attract a mate.  They may be very outgoing and charismatic.  They may look like they have it all together and be on top of the world.  They may hold high positions of leadership in business, government, religion, or society.

But underneath everything, lurking in the background, is a sense that something is missing.  That there is something just beyond your grasp that might be even better.  It may manifest as a feeling of being unfulfilled. Of wanting or needing more – more money, a bigger and better home; the most flashy car; expensive jewelry and clothing; superior social status; constant companionship…something… in order to fill some yet undefined void.  However, that constant, ever-expanding need for more cannot be filled for long – and then the quest for something “even better” begins anew.

Some jokingly call it “shopping therapy.”  Others, call it what it really is: a shopping addiction.  But that good and powerful feeling that happens when you buy something you want never remains – and in order to keep that good feeling you keep buying and buying, whether you can really afford it or not.

Low self-worth or self-esteem is the basis for all addictions, whether it is drugs, alcohol, sex, food, spending, chaos, negativity, anger, etc.  It is all about trying to fill an unknown need in order to feel better, more worthy or important inside.
instrinsict worthDo you feel like you keep bumping up against an invisible financial glass ceiling that you just cannot break through?  You may have a self-worth program that says you’re not worth more than $75,000 per year.  It you manage to reach $100,000 one year, the next you might find yourself laid off for several months and only make $50,000 – or even less!

Low self-worth can keep you from asking for that raise you rightfully deserve.  It will keep you over-achieving and being under-paid for your services.  It will keep you from finishing that book or project that might just be your ticket to the fame and fortune you desire.  It might keep you from following your real dream to be a famous painter, rock star, healer, entrepreneur (fill in your own dream here!) because you are afraid you might fail or look foolish – or that people will talk about you and make fun of you.  

And so you rationalize away your dreams by taking a job that will pay the bills, that looks successful on the outside but that is sucking the life out of your soul each and every day.  You tell yourself that you are too old, too over-weight, not ready, don’t have enough education, blah, blah, blah….  And the years go by and the excuses keep coming as your dreams and goals slowly die – piece by painful piece. 

So what is the answer to the pervasive, and often unseen problem of low self-worth and self-esteem?  Can it ever be corrected?  How do you even know if there is a problem if you are not consciously aware that you don’t value yourself enough?

The answers begin with learning how to become more consciously aware of how our thoughts and actions make us feel.  By indentifying what we are really saying to ourselves and about ourselves every day.  Learning how we are our own harshest critic – and how that is literally robbing us of our financial abundance, joy and life-force.

It takes practice and it take constant diligence to monitor our thoughts, our actions, our feelings, and our outcomes!  But it IS possible! 
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What I’ve discovered is that circumstance that we are experiencing in our lives is based on how much we love, respect and feel worthy about ourselves.  Everything!  If we have healthy self-worth, we expect more from the world – and we get it.  We take better care of ourselves on every level.  We only choose loving, healthy relationships, because we will not tolerate people who don’t love and support us at least as much as we love and support ourselves.  The key to everything we desire is all about this new conversation of real self-worth and self-esteem.

On July 30th, at 4:00 p.m. PT/ 5:00 p.m. MT/ 6:00 p.m. CT/ 7:00 p.m. ET I’m hosting a free 60-minute teleseminar to talk about ways that we can become more conscious of what our real self-worth and self-esteem levels are.  We will explore the many ways we unconsciously sabotage ourselves in different areas of our lives, based on the subconscious low self-worth programs that are at the root of our behaviors.  We will uncover some of the hidden words and phrases we use to undermine our true worth, and how we unconsciously train others to not value us.  And we will also discover how we can begin to love and value ourselves, so that others will too.  

I hope you will join me for this powerful event!  Here’s the link to sign up for this free event: www.quantumsoulclearing.com/selfworth.

Ask Michelle: What are Functional Skill Sets?

practice-repeat-purchased-michelle-41722495Question: 

In the Quantum Soul Clearing Statements, at the very end, it says “Please apply them all as functional skill sets.”  What does that mean?  ~R. Rocca

Michelle’s Response: 

Functional skills are competencies that are transferable to many settings – life, work, relationships, love, finances, etc.  As you develop a list of the functional skills you have and most enjoy using can help you manifest experiences and circumstances that fit your gifts and talents and provide more life satisfaction.

Functional skill sets are  generally developed over time through repetition or practice that become automatic.  Ultimately, a functional skill set becomes a natural, every day set of skills that support your life, become a part of who you are and enhance your life.   Having functional skill sets helps you feel good about yourself.  Functional skills sets can be emotional, mental, physical, spiritual or financial.  They are internal resources and talents that you can utilize to make your life better in many ways.

Here  are just a few of the practical examples of functional skill sets:

  • typing
  • playing an instrument
  • riding a bike
  • communication
  • love
  • selling
  • analytical thinking
  • training
  • Interpersonal skills
  • coaching
  • advocating
  • scrap-booking
  • math skills
  • composing
  • compassion

So when you do the download portion of the Quantum Soul Clearing Process, and you get to the end, of the process, be aware that you are asking Spirit to make everything you’ve chosen to download a natural, everyday, skillful part of your life!

Happy Summer Solstice!

Calla Lilies and me- age 4

“Are You Planting Seeds of Success?”

I have to admit, Summer is my favorite time of the year.  It is when the sun is warm.   Nature is blooming and growing. The days are long and filled with possibility.  The nights are soft and gentle, and filled with stars.

As a child, I was often sick throughout the year with strep throat.  But the summer months, filled with fresh air, sunshine, healthy foods, and easy days were always healthy months for me.  My childhood days were spent roaming the river bottoms, climbing trees, swimming, riding bikes and having picnics in the park or woods.  I often worked and played alongside my parents and grandparents (who lived next door) in our gardens.  I loved the feeling of being constantly barefoot, and the feel of cool mud squishing between my toes! It was a nurturing, loving and supportive atmosphere.

My grandfather was a master gardener.  There wasn’t anything he couldn’t grow.  In fact, his gardens were noted throughout the area.  There was even a write-up and picture taken (I have to confess it is one of my all-time favorites!) by the Ogden Standard Examiner of me smelling the Calla Lilies he grew.  Looking at that picture, you can see how magnificent they are.  Remember, Utah is a desert climate – and Calla Lilies are indigenous to Mediterranean climates!  How he got them to be almost five feet tall is a testament to his gardening skill and love of Mother Nature.

So what are you growing – literally and figuratively? 

Have you planted fruits and vegetables in a garden at your home or apartment that you’ll be harvesting the rest of the summer and into the fall?  There is nothing like a vine ripened tomato (I have to say, Utah has the BEST tomatoes in the world – they’ve really spoiled me forever.  There’s just something about the soil there that grows some of the most delicious fresh tomatoes in the world!) or a fresh ear of organic corn slathered in butter and Himalayan salt.  Or what about those snap beans cooked up with a bit of chopped, onion freshly pulled from your garden, and a few sprigs of fresh dill?  And my all-time favorite thing ever is freshly shelled green peas – raw!  They’ve even been known to beat out freshly picked raspberries and strawberries – not often, but oh man! – they rank up there with a little slice of heaven in my book!

Speaking of good soil, what I learned from my grandfather was that the soil in your garden has to be prepared in order to grow healthy, organic crops. The process of getting the garden ready, actually started In the fall.  He would often cut in old, rotted hay or straw as mulch, to help hold the water and make the soil more fertile.  By spring, it was all decomposed and had turned into soft soil.

Then in the early spring, he always started with a load of old, aged, organic manure that he cut in to the dirt with a tiller.  He’d spread it and then work it in a few weeks before he’d actually plant.  Tilling the soil and using organic manure helped create aerated soil conditions and the manure gave the soil healthy bacteria and nutrients that the plants loved!  He never did use anything with chemicals or anything that wasn’t completely organic in his gardens.

It is critical to make sure that the growing conditions for anything you are growing are optimal.  You can’t plant seeds in soil that isn’t soft, warm and healthy and expect everything to grow!  And once those seeds are planted, you have to water them with just the right amount of water.  Too much water and the seeds rot in the ground.  Too little water and the seeds either won’t germinate, or the young seedlings simply wither and die.  With just the right amount of water, plants will grow and thrive.

Once the plants begin to grow, it is imperative that any weeds be removed.  Weeds will choke out the vegetables and fruits and will rob them of the proper nutrients, water and sun, so that they die before they can grow properly.  My grandfather was up at 5:00 a.m. every day except Sunday, hoeing and weeding his magnificent gardens.  It was something he relished and it was time, I believe, that he spent communing with Nature, with himself, and with Source.

I believe that our lives are just like physical gardens.  They can be well-tended and bear the fruits of our labors – or they can be neglected and un-worked, and yield little or nothing that we desire.  We could be planting our seeds of success in soil that hasn’t been well-prepared and may not be ready to support the growth and change we desire!

Golden coins in soil with young plant isolated. Money growth conOur dreams and desires are the seeds we are planting.  If we plant our desires in fertile soil and nurture them with focus and attention, watering them with devotion, love,  the belief of success, and taking action when appropriate, they will bear beautiful fruit.

Our sub-conscious beliefs and negative programs represent the soil conditions in which we plant the seeds of our dreams and desires.  If those beliefs are not healthy and nurturing, or if our conscious or sub-conscious programs are not conducive to growing our dreams and desires, it’s like we’ve planted our desires in barren ground that cannot produce the fruits we are intending.

On the other hand, we can prepare the ground by examining our lives, identifying our old stories, and discovering the old beliefs that may not yet support what we desire to create.  We may need to  till the soil by connecting with our Divine Core Centers, spend time in meditation, become absolutely crystal clear about what we want to create, so that our inner gardens will accept the seeds of our desires and we can have optimal “growing conditions.”

Next, we need to clear our old stories, unsupportive beliefs and negative emotions.  They are like the weeds that can potentially choke out our greatest dreams and desires, and will prevent our dreams and desires from taking root and flourishing.

Finally, we need to download the vision of what we desire to create in our lives.  Spend time daily in visualization, creating a healthy, energized atmosphere filled with positive excitement and anticipation for our desires to manifest fully.  As you focus on the seeds you’ve planted, on your greatest dreams and desires, it is important to use as many of our senses as possible.  See yourself in the pictures you are envisioning; feel the feelings of success and accomplishment; hear people and yourself telling you how fabulous you are and how incredible the new experience is; smell what it smells like; imagine the feel of the clothes you will be wearing; the energy of the people who will be around you.  Make it as real as you can make it – and do it every single day!

I would like to invite you to plant your inner garden, if you haven’t already.  It’s never too late!  Consider joining my monthly group membership program.  There you will find an incredible, supportive, nurturing group of people who are also dedicated to creating their dreams and desires in spectacular ways!  It’s a very powerful way to help nurture your inner garden and watch it flourish.

I have to admit, Summer is my favorite time of the year.  It is when the sun is warm.   Nature is blooming and growing. The days are long and filled with possibility.  The nights are soft and gentle, and filled with stars. 

As a child, I was often sick throughout the year with strep throat.  But the summer months, filled with fresh air, sunshine, healthy foods, and easy days were always healthy months for me.  My childhood days were spent roaming the river bottoms, climbing trees, swimming, riding bikes and having picnics in the park or woods.  I often worked and played alongside my parents and grandparents (who lived next door) in our gardens.  I loved the feeling of being constantly barefoot, and the feel of cool mud squishing between my toes! It was a nurturing, loving and supportive atmosphere. 

My grandfather was a master gardener.  There wasn’t anything he couldn’t grow.  In fact, his gardens were noted throughout the area.  There was even a write-up and picture taken (I have to confess it is one of my all-time favorites!) by the Ogden Standard Examiner of me smelling the Calla Lilies he grew.  Looking at that picture, you can see how magnificent they are.  Remember, Utah is a desert climate – and Calla Lilies are indigenous to Mediterranean climates!  How he got them to be almost five feet tall is a testament to his gardening skill and love of Mother Nature.

So what are you growing – literally and figuratively? 

iStock_000010253161XSmallHave you planted fruits and vegetables in a garden at your home or apartment that you’ll be harvesting the rest of the summer and into the fall?  There is nothing like a vine ripened tomato (I have to say, Utah has the BEST tomatoes in the world – they’ve really spoiled me forever.  There’s just something about the soil there that grows some of the most delicious fresh tomatoes in the world!) or a fresh ear of organic corn slathered in butter and Himalayan salt.  Or what about those snap beans cooked up with a bit of chopped, onion freshly pulled from your garden, and a few sprigs of fresh dill?  And my all-time favorite thing ever is freshly shelled green peas – raw!  They’ve even been known to beat out freshly picked raspberries and strawberries – not often, but oh man! – they rank up there with a little slice of heaven in my book! 

Speaking of good soil, what I learned from my grandfather was that the soil in your garden has to be prepared in order to grow healthy, organic crops. The process of getting the garden ready, actually started In the fall.  He would often cut in old, rotted hay or straw as mulch, to help hold the water and make the soil more fertile.  By spring, it was all decomposed and had turned into soft soil. 

Then in the early spring, he always started with a load of old, aged, organic manure that he cut in to the dirt with a tiller.  He’d spread it and then work it in a few weeks before he’d actually plant.  Tilling the soil and using organic manure helped create aerated soil conditions and the manure gave the soil healthy bacteria and nutrients that the plants loved!  He never did use anything with chemicals or anything that wasn’t completely organic in his gardens. 

It is critical to make sure that the growing conditions for anything you are growing are optimal.  You can’t plant seeds in soil that isn’t soft, warm and healthy and expect everything to grow!  And once those seeds are planted, you have to water them with just the right amount of water.  Too much water and the seeds rot in the ground.  Too little water and the seeds either won’t germinate, or the young seedlings simply wither and die.  With just the right amount of water, plants will grow and thrive.

Once the plants begin to grow, it is imperative that any weeds be removed.  Weeds will choke out the vegetables and fruits and will rob them of the proper nutrients, water and sun, so that they die before they can grow properly.  My grandfather was up at 5:00 a.m. every day except Sunday, hoeing and weeding his magnificent gardens.  It was something he relished and it was time, I believe, that he spent communing with Nature, with himself, and with Source.

I believe that our lives are just like physical gardens.  They can be well-tended and bear the fruits of our labors – or they can be neglected and un-worked, and yield little or nothing that we desire.  We could be planting our seeds of success in soil that hasn’t been well-prepared and may not be ready to support the growth and change we desire!

Our dreams and desires are the seeds we are planting.  If we plant our desires in fertile soil and nurture them with focus and attention, watering them with devotion, love,  the belief of success, and taking action when appropriate, they will bear beautiful fruit.

Our sub-conscious beliefs and negative programs represent the soil conditions in which we plant the seeds of our dreams and desires.  If those beliefs are not healthy and nurturing, or if our conscious or sub-conscious programs are not conducive to growing our dreams and desires, it’s like we’ve planted our desires in barren ground that cannot produce the fruits we are intending. 

On the other hand, we can prepare the ground by examining our lives, identifying our old stories, and discovering the old beliefs that may not yet support what we desire to create.  We may need to  till the soil by connecting with our Divine Core Centers, spend time in meditation, become absolutely crystal clear about what we want to create, so that our inner gardens will accept the seeds of our desires and we can have optimal “growing conditions.”

Next, we need to clear our old stories, unsupportive beliefs and negative emotions.  They are like the weeds that can potentially choke out our greatest dreams and desires, and will prevent our dreams and desires from taking root and flourishing. 

Finally, we need to download the vision of what we desire to create in our lives.  Spend time daily in visualization, creating a healthy, energized atmosphere filled with positive excitement and anticipation for our desires to manifest fully.  As you focus on the seeds you’ve planted, on your greatest dreams and desires, it is important to use as many of our senses as possible.  See yourself in the pictures you are envisioning; feel the feelings of success and accomplishment; hear people and yourself telling you how fabulous you are and how incredible the new experience is; smell what it smells like; imagine the feel of the clothes you will be wearing; the energy of the people who will be around you.  Make it as real as you can make it – and do it every single day!

I would like to invite you to plant your inner garden, if you haven’t already.  It’s never too late!  Consider joining my monthly group membership program.  There you will find an incredible, supportive, nurturing group of people who are also dedicated to creating their dreams and desires in spectacular ways!  It’s a very powerful way to help nurture your inner garden and watch it flourish.

Ask Michelle: Is My Daughter Draining My Energy?

Question: 

I am 73 now and love the lord.  I am not trying to judge my daughter whom is in her 50’s.  I have had different people tell me that by my daughter’s actions she is draining my energy.  When little I slept with my Mom. She took me to a doctor as she thought I may be anemic. The doc asked me some questions and then told my mom she was draining my energy.

Anyhow when my daughter came to visit the whole time she was here I became very exhausted. Now she is gone but each time she calls the same thing happens.  How do i block this?  I was told some people have this inner type spirit or something that draw on other people’s energy.  I hope you can answer me.

My Answer:

There are definitely people in life who energetically drain our energy.  There are many ways this happens, but here are some of the most important ways we allow our energy to be drained:

  1. Engaging in negative or disempowering conversation with others.  Talking about how terrible things are is a sure-fire way to deplete your energy and make you feel terrible!
  2. Keeping company with someone who chronically uses or abuses drugs, alcohol, cigarettes or pornography is a great way to pick up entity attachments.  Entities attach themselves to our energy fields and suck our life-force dry.  Often it can take days, weeks or months to feel better.
  3. Over-giving to others will deplete your energy faster than you can get it back.  You can tell when this happens because you are exhausted, feel angry or resentful, or feel used.  You may not know why you feel these things, because you love the other person, but if you’re honest with yourself, the feelings are still there.
  4. Trying to control or manipulate others – or having other try to control or manipulate you is a profound waste of your life-force energy.

Learning to “no” to others, or limiting the time spent with someone who energetically drains you is critical to maintaining your health and well-being.  At first it will feel selfish and people who have been used to feeding on your energy will resent that you don’t spend as much time with them.

One thing you can do to get your energy back if you feel like you have to spend time with energy-drainers, is to use the Preparation to Work Process.  This process will help you eliminate the negative energies that may have attached themselves to you and clear out energy drains.

Many Blessings,

Michelle

P.S.  Do you have a question?  Email Michelle at service@quantumsoulclearing.com.  Each month we highlight the best questions and provide guidance and additional information.

How to Recognize Your Limiting Beliefs – Art of Joyful Living Radio

art_of_joyful_living_logo_2010_300pxJoin me for a lively and informative discussion this Tuesday, May 28th @ Noon ET on The Art of Joyful Living Show with hosts Cindy Briolotta and Linda Cassell.  We will be discussing how to recognize YOUR glass ceiling of subconscious beliefs and shatter it forever – in under 15 minutes!

The Art of Joyful Living Show provides listeners with insights, inspirations, tools and techniques for creating the life and business of their dreams. Previous show guests include Asara Lovejoy, Dr. Bruce Lipton, Gregg Braden, Cynthia Kersey, Dr. Susan Lord, Janet Attwood, Dr. Bernie Siegel, Marc Allen, Sonia Choquette, Jennifer McLean, Dee Wallace, Shakti Gawain, Dr. Carol Look, Sandi Radomski, and many more.

Click here to listen to the live broadcast, or if you miss it, to hear the recording.

Memorial Day – Remembering the Past

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Every year for as long as I can remember, my family had a tradition of honoring those who were no longer with us.  In the United States, Memorial Day is a national holiday as a remembrance of our fallen soldiers and those who served in all branches of the military.

I’ve always loved Memorial Day for many reasons.  As a child, it was the gateway to a care-free summer and no school!  It was a day of family, picnics, good food, and story-telling. It was a very special day where we would put together bouquets of flowers and go to each of the cemeteries where my grandparents, great grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins had been buried.  It was always an all-day ritual of driving to Ogden, Hooper, and West Weber cemeteries to place those flowers on each of their graves.  Everyone we knew was also out there – extended family, friends, co-workers, neighbors, etc.  It was a type of informal reunion where we’d connect and tell stories of our loved ones to keep their memories alive.

I heard the stories of my grandfather and his three brothers who all served in World War I.  My grandfather was in the first air corps and was a gunner.  His three brothers all served in the trenches.  I learned about World War II and my uncles’ and other relatives who fought and their stories.    I come from a long line of proud veterans and warriors who faithfully and proudly served our country, so memorial day has always been a very big tradition for us to honor those who served – as well as all who have fallen.

Here in Utah the cemeteries are simply beautiful.  On Memorial Day, acres of headstones are turned into acres of flowers, small windmills, patriotic flags, pictures, and all types of decorations.  They are a riot of color and lovingly placed mementos that are given in remembrance of loved ones.

But for me, I think the most magical thing was seeing all the spirits of those no longer with us shimmering throughout the cemeteries, mingling with all the gathered people, and communing with the living, as they shared the stories, good times, tears and laughter.

For me, it brought a feeling of continuity and a deep knowing that even though our bodies may die, the Spirit is eternal. I always felt great comfort and joy in the connections with the departed.  It never felt scary or eerie – just a bigger family reunion that most people just couldn’t see, but could often feel.

During those visits, I particularly loved to hear about my great grandparents and great-great grandparents who had helped settle the Ogden Valley.  Hearing about their trials, their journeys, their lives helped bring them closer to me.  It made me feel deeply connected with the past and gave me a sense of continuity and belonging that I didn’t often feel otherwise.

One story was of my great grandparents who emigrated from Norway in the 1870’s.  My great grandfather came to America with two other brothers.  He was a blacksmith by trade and a big, strong man.  He was here, working for over two years before he’d saved enough to send for my great grandmother and their three small children who he’d had to leave behind.

They originally bought a blacksmith shop in the upper Ogden Valley in Liberty, Utah.  It reminded them of the old country with the towering mountains, deep snows and hearty pine trees.  Life was very difficult and my great grandmother had three babies during the time they lived there that she lost, one after another.  Needless to say, she struggled with depression and feeling isolated.

Finally, my grandfather had an opportunity to buy a lucrative blacksmith shop in Riverdale, Utah, a small farming village (at that time) near Ogden, Utah.  It was a once-in-a-life-time opportunity for a much better, prosperous life with a larger community of people.  The only problem was that he didn’t have the required money to put down on the new shop and there were others who were waiting to step in and buy it.  He despaired ever being able to make that dream come true.

My great grandmother was only about 4’10” tall, but was a very strong, determined, intelligent, hard-working woman.  She asked him how important this dream of his was and they talked about it at length.  She finally took him into the bedroom where the cedar chest he’d made for her stood.  There, in the bottom, carefully saved and squirreled away, was layer upon layer of pennies, nickels and dimes.  Money she’d saved for years for an emergency or an opportunity.  There was just enough money for the down payment on the shop and the house that went with the deal.

Knowing the very humble beginnings of my family, this story always brought tears to my eyes.  It always seemed like a bit of a miracle.  But more than that, it spoke of my great grandmother’s love for her husband and her willingness to follow him to a new, foreign land, filled with hardship and loss, and still make all their dreams come true.

Some old stories, like this, connect us with the truth of our ancestors and help give us a deep sense of belonging.  They help us see the value of sacrifice or the bonds of deep, abiding love.

Other old stories, may not be so positive.

Often, when working with others privately or in group, we find that the old story of lack, limitation, grief, sadness, depression, poverty, or any other type of low-energy frequency, is the one thing that just keeps us stuck.  The old stories can be creating a resonant field that attracts more of exactly what we DON’T want to be experiencing!  It can be our biggest blind spot and it can be tripping us up over and over again, as we struggle to achieve our goals, dreams, and desires.

What is so interesting, is how these old stories are often a part of our every day conversations!  How often do you hear yourself argue for your limitations?  “I can’t afford that because (fill in the blank)!”  “My life just sucks because (fill in the blank)!”  “I can’t get a date to save my soul!”  “I’ve filled out thousands of resumes and no one wants me!”  “No matter what I do, I just can’t drop this extra weight!”  (Yes, I know that one intimately!  lol)

Our thoughts, our beliefs, the old stories we tell ourselves over and over and over again are sabotaging our best efforts to change our lives.  They keep the pain of the past alive and well, and rob us of our peace of mind and prosperity in the here and now, as well as the future!

These week, I want to challenge you to pay greater attention to your thoughts, feelings, and beliefs – especially to your words!  Begin to notice when you are saying something that keeps an old unwanted, disempowering belief – and old story of disempowerment –  in charge of your life.

Memories can be great – or they can be your biggest stumbling block.  How are you using the memories of your past?  Are there old stories you need to simply eliminate all-together? What if you could tell those stories  in a different way that will allow you to tell the new story of prosperity, self-love, joy, empowerment and alignment with who YOU REALLY are!?

Let’s work together to change the story.  To align with the magnificence of who you truly are.  Allow yourself to tell the story of the beautiful, engaging, powerful, brilliant, gifted you.  Dare to remember the past in a way that allows you to learn from it and move forward in freedom and joy, eager to embrace your creations and co-creations with others – to create this new paradigm world the way you want to experience it!

Sheila Gale and I talk about fear and limiting beliefs Today!

Does fear  and anxiety – conscious or unconscious – prevent you from moving forward toward your goals, dreams and desires?

sheila-galePlease join me today on The Sheila Gale Show and learn how your subconscious fears may be sabotaging all areas of your life and limiting your life potential.  On this interview, Sheila and I will go through a healing activation and alignment process to shatter the glass ceilings of fear and anxiety.

Tune in LIVE and discover a tool that you can use throughout your life to eliminate all types of fear and anxiety and feel empowered to live the life you truly desire.

Here are the details….

Tuesday, May 21st @3PM Pacific/6PM Eastern

Click here to listen in

On this call…

  • Learn how to recognize YOUR glass ceiling of subconscious beliefs and shatter it forever – in under 15 minutes!
  • Discover how your limiting beliefs and subconscious programming are sabotaging you in the work place and limiting your earning potential – often by millions of dollars!
  • Experience a very simple alignment and reconnecting technique that will immediately increase your energy, your mental clarity and connection with your intuition.
  • Understand how your underlying fears of being seen and heard keep you playing small and cost you thousands of dollars every year.
  • Understand how to connect with your Infinite Wisdom and harness the power of the Universe to easily magnetize your goals.

I hope you will join me!  
 
 

QSC Tips for Greater Success: Managing Interference

In the past month I’ve become aware of some additional interference that many people are experiencing in different ways. Some of the symptoms are: increased irritability; headaches; more joint and muscle pain – feeling like you’ve been hit by the proverbial “Mack truck;” a feeling of being squeezed or pressure building, increased anxiety and fears; wanting to hideout or withdraw; extreme fatigue; restlessness; anger or rage; and feeling out of control.

No one likes to experience energy and emotions that feel unpleasant or that we judge as negative. Here are some things to help you shift the energy and feel better immediately:

  • Quit judging yourself for having “negativity” in your life. Feelings are simply a signal to tell you whether are aligned with your true Self or not.  If you feel unhappy, you are out of alignment.  Take a moment to re-connect.
  • Get as centered as possible and ask if what you are feeling is even your emotions! (Hint: It probably isn’t.)
  • Take a few deep, calming breaths.
  • Use the Quantum Soul Clearing Preparation to Work statement and/or audio track from any of the audio programs you may already own. Make sure you are centered and connected with your Divine Core Center first.
  • Please note that there have been some new additions to the Prep to Work statements that may not be in your audio tracks. Please make sure you add them either out loud or silently to yourself.
  • If you are in the membership program, there is a new Prep to Work audio track that will be available this month as part of your member benefits!

The Joys and Angsts of Motherhood

Happy Mother's DayI’ve been a mother for 34 years this year.  I can honestly say that it has been the toughest job I’ve ever had – and the most rewarding.  Motherhood, for the most part, is a 24/7 complicated job – made more difficult by the feelings that most mothers experience of not doing it right or “perfectly.”

After beating up on myself for so many years for not being a perfect mother, I’ve come to realize that there is no such things as the “Perfect Mother.”  In fact, there is no written rule book, no special instructions when you become a mother.  Yes, there are magazine articles, blog posts, and even some books that can give you parenting tips.  However, because each child and each mother is uniquely different, there is no one recipe that fits all relationships.

What I experienced as a mother was the  sheer terror of wondering if I was completely ruining my children’s lives every time I made a parenting decision.  I had a deep fear that I just wasn’t up to the tasks that come with motherhood.  That was compounded by the fact that I also struggled with a disabling disease that made me wonder at times if I’d live to see them grown.  I worried that I wasn’t able to give them everything they needed – the right schools, the right clothes, the right home in the right neighborhood, blah, blah, blah, blah…. You get the picture.

I also experienced the sheer joy of knowing and loving the amazing, unique Beings that my children are.  I watched in awe as they developed their unique gifts and talents.  I took great pride and delight in watching my daughters take their first steps, learn to read, learn to ride a bike, experience their first day of school, excel at music, at school, at skiing and snowboarding, fall in love, fall out of love, graduate from school, get that first job, fall back in love again, get married, and then have children of their own – along with every milestone in between.

I’ve watched in wonder and pride as they grew into incredible young women in their own rights.  It has been one of the most incredible gifts and experiences I’ve ever had.

Motherhood isn’t easy.  Often, you yearn for the difficult times to be over (whether that’s a moment, a day or years) – and then you yearn to have all that time back, once they’ve grown and left your home.

Your roles change throughout the years: sole care-giver, cheer-leader, teacher, cook, confidant, antagonist, chauffer, seamstress, disciplinarian, banker, jailer, doctor, nurse, guardian, protector, and hundreds of other titles and roles.  Great mothers are always willing to do the hard work.  While they would like to be their children’s best friend, they also know that sometimes, they have to be the heavy in order to provide appropriate boundaries and keep their children safe.

Motherhood will bring up your deepest fears and feelings of personal inadequacy.  I have yet to meet a mother who hasn’t wondered if somehow she’s a failure.  The role of motherhood is definitely not for the faint of heart.  But it is for the courageous and for those seeking great adventure.

If you find yourself feeling inadequate, fearful, out of your comfort zone – all those deep dark feelings that only motherhood can generate – I would like to suggest you take a few minutes for yourself.  Get centered and take some deep breaths.  Go within and give yourself a big hug of compassion and understanding.  If you need to, do a Quantum Soul Clearing Process to release the negative feelings and judgments that you’re experiencing.  Make sure to practice radical self-forgiveness and self-compassion.  Know that you are not alone.  Know that the Divine loves you no matter what.

I’m am so grateful for my own mother and the amazing women I’ve called grandmother.  I am fortunate to have had such beautiful, intelligent, compassionate, loving women teach me how to become a good human being, and a good mother.  Without their guidance and role modeling, I wouldn’t be where I am today.

I want to take the opportunity to honor all the Mothers of the world.  I want to honor you for all you do.  I know the challenges you face and want you to know I value your contribution to the world.  The children you are raising will be the next generation of scientists, doctors, healers, teachers, innovators, leaders, farmers, etc.  You are helping to mold the future of our world.  My hat is off to you!  Keep up the great work.

Financial Alchemy Is Here!

 

AUTHOR MORGANA RAE is no ordinary life coach. Fun, sexy, sassy and often quirky, she calls herself the “Charmed Life Coach” because she teaches people how to lead truly “charmed” lives, where 

prosperity seems to come to them as if by magic. Because of this, she’s become internationally recognized as the world’s top Relationship with Money Coach. This distinction has led her to be featured on ABC-TV, PBS, NPR, FOX News Radio, United Press International and even The Wall Street Journal online. She’s share the bill on programs alongside Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, John Gray, John Assaraf and T Harv Eker, to name a few. Named one of 2012’s “Top Women in E-commerce” by WE Magazine, Morgana has guided thousands of entrepreneurs, artists, healers and humanitarians to thrive in their purpose, attract more than they chase, and make things happen with ease, flow and synchronicity.

And now, Morgana has shared her unique coaching system in a book called Financial Alchemy: Twelve Months of Magic and Manifestation. The book is a year-long workbook that takes you through the same process she has used with her coaching clients for the past 10 years. What makes her system different from all others on the subject is that you learn how to see “money” as a person. Morgana teaches that when we are stuck in money problems, it is because we see “money” as a “Money Monster”. And because we see money as a monster, we unconsciously push it away and experience scarcity and financial struggle, even though we may say we need or want money. But the self-coaching system Morgana shares in her book Financial Alchemy shows you how to turn your “Money Monster” into what she calls your “Money Honey”—where money becomes a loving, supportive partner who brings abundance, manifestation and sheer magic into your life. Here are a few words from some of her clients who have used the Financial Alchemy system: 

“I’m seeing success beyond my wildest dreams… I’m constantly blown away at the business and new clients that I’m attracting… The thought goes through my head many times a day now “I do live a charmed life.” 

~ Lavon Lacey, owner of Quantum Entertainment, Inc.,Atlanta,Georgia

“I created a new relationship with money and just a few days later I received almost $4,000. Some of this money I had given up on collecting. It came from multiple sources all on the same day…Your financial alchemy program is so very powerful yet simple and fun.”

 

~ Jason Hignite, Liberty League International

 “It seems that ever since I started working with you, I’ve doubled (or more than doubled) my income every 6 months…by November of last year I made over $100,000…” 

~ R.K., Entertainer and Multilevel Marketer,Los Angeles,CA

Financial Alchemy: Twelve Months of Magic and Manifestation is coming to Amazon TODAY/TOMORROW Wednesday January 23rd, 2013. When you buy the book during the launch, you’ll  receive DOZENS of beautiful bonus gifts from Morgana’s friends and colleagues, including one from me [[here, put the name/short description of your bonus gift; if you are not offering a gift, please DELETE this highlighted section]].

To get the book AND the gifts, go to:
http://morganarae.com/book-launch/pages/pre-launch.php

And as a special gift from Morgana, she’s also giving away over 4 hours of MP3 audio from her recent “Money, Love & Magic! Telesummit” with a panel of 11 world-renowned experts, PLUS a LIVE online class in February where Morgana will personally teach you how to use the book Financial Alchemy to get the very best results (and you get to ask her your questions, too!).

With all those gifts, you’re going to feel pretty wealthy even before you read the book! I do hope you’ll check it out on Wednesday January 23rd, 2013.