I picked up an early morning call from my brother in law on May 1st, asking what the latest news was on Darin. My sleepy brain registered the fact that something wasn’t quite right, but I really had NO idea why he was asking about my step-son.
In response to my questioning, he said, “Apparently, you haven’t heard. Darin was in a terrible motorcycle accident last night and is in ICU.” And with those words, I was wide awake!
I immediately went to find my husband and together we made the call to my daughter-in-law, Jessica, to find out what was happening.
That was when we learned that he was in such critical condition, that doctors didn’t expect him to survive. Needless to say, Jessica was almost hysterical and terrified that she was going to lose her husband.
I found myself automatically checking in with him intuitively, and was told he would be just fine. I worked with Jessica for a little bit to get her calmed down, then went to work on Darin remotely, myself.
Over and over again, I was told by my non-physical teams, “He will be just fine. Do not panic. Do not worry. Hold only positive thoughts for him.”
Somehow I found myself in pure peacefulness, despite the news and despite everything we were being told. At first, I kept checking in with myself to make sure I wasn’t just numbing out and detaching from it all.
I’m usually the one who quickly attaches and gets swept away by all the drama! But this time, it was my job to hold 
space for all the healing opportunities for him, as well as for the entire family. And that’s just what I did.
I reached out to my friends and community asked for prayers for his healing. I was absolutely blown away by the outpouring I received. Darius Barazandeh, Eram Saeed, and Shefali Burns, some of my telesummit hosts, all added Darin to their community’s prayer circles, effectively connecting with hundreds of thousands of people around the world.
Love and healing offerings began pouring in. Kimberly McGeorge sent a healing audio; hundreds of people in my community sent reiki and other types of remote healing modalities. The responses by people I knew and others who were “strangers” was deeply moving and almost overwhelming.
As the days went by, and there was no real change in his condition. I began to doubt myself, and to question the validity of the information I had received. I tend to be a bit impatient! And I wanted him awake and on the mend immediately!
However, I continued to do my healing work on him remotely, holding space for his ultimate outcome and also holding space for my husband and family to grieve and work through their own feelings.
About a week into his ICU stay, Darin suffered another setback. He started spiking a fever of about 103°F. More tests were run and we found that he had developed pneumonia! Apparently when he had his accident, he aspirated dirt from the road, as well as food and stomach acid from his own body. The result was a raging infection that required specialized IV antibiotics, suctioning his lungs and constant monitoring.
Things looked pretty dark – and still I was told, “He will be OK. Remain calm and continue holding space, and continue sending healing energies.”
Despite the drama paying itself out, I managed to remain centered and calm. I am not sure how I was able to do it. But I had a very clear knowing that he would come out of it.
Then, about two weeks after the accident, Darin started showing signs of waking up. We were cautiously elated, because we weren’t sure just how much damage his brain and body had suffered and what those effects would be.
At first, he was quite disoriented. He couldn’t talk because of the trachea tube they’d inserted to help with the pneumonia. He seemed to recognize Jessica, his wife, but was so exhausted he was only awake for moments at a time.
However, each day, those waking moments lengthened. Within a few days, the doctors did more tests and learned that he was strong enough to have the trachea tube removed, which allowed him to speak.
Throughout this time, I knew that my role was to stay as centered and peaceful as possible, while sending healing energy through me to him. Secondarily, my job was to hold the space for my family members, and help them work through their grief, fears and uncertainties.
The challenge for me as an empath is not getting caught up in the emotions of those around me. And this event was a true test of that!
What I was told by my non-physical teams was that staying out of the drama and holding the vision and space for Darin’s recovery was of paramount importance.
I accomplished this by meditation, daily prayer, and consciously checking in with myself throughout each day to monitor what my thoughts and feelings were.
It was fascinating to me to realize just how much of my husband’s and daughter-in-law’s fears and energies I was absorbing! I had to stop often and clear that fear for us all and purposely send it into the Light for transformation.
If I had allowed that energy to infect me, I could not and would not be able to continue to send healing energy and help Darin to the best of my abilities.
How many times have you experienced something very challenging in your life? And how many times have your gotten sucked into the energy of the circumstance, only to find yourself spinning and feeling helpless to do anything?
I can honestly say that that used to be my life. I would easily get caught up in the drama of the situation and then I would be unable to be as effective as I could have been.
Going through this experience has taught me a powerful lesson in allowing, not judging, and staying connected and centered. Was it easy? NO!
Was the outcome optimal? YES!
I also learned through this that when you are centered and grounded, Spirit can speak to you very clearly! I VERY CLEARLY was told he would be alright. For the first two weeks, I had remind myself that what appeared to be catastrophic was only temporary. And it was!
At the end of May, Darin was moved to a care facility where they coordinated his rehabilitation and managed his daily care needs until he was strong enough to do so himself.
Then about a week ago, he was released to go home! Talk about a miracle! The doctors didn’t hold out much hope in the beginning.
Darin still has quite a ways to go until he’s back to his original strength, but we are absolutely delighted with the progress that has been made so far. He’s already talking about getting back to work, and we have to remind him that this is his time to heal.
I admire his desire to be productive. And I also know from personal experience that it is imperative to allow yourself the time to heal, body, mind and soul from traumatic experiences.
If you are facing any kind of challenging experience, hopefully you can draw on my experience here.
Drop into your belly area, refuse to get drawn into the chaos and confusion of the moment, and start aligning with your SELF and with Source, so that you can receive clear guidance and direction.
That alignment will help you create miracles of all kinds in your life and the lives of your loved ones!
I picked up an early morning call from my brother in law on May 1st, asking what the latest news was on Darin. My sleepy brain registered the fact that something wasn’t quite right, but I really had NO idea why he was asking about my step-son.
In response to my questioning, he said, “Apparently, you haven’t heard. Darin was in a terrible motorcycle accident last night and is in ICU.” And with those words, I was wide awake!
I immediately went to find my husband and together we made the call to my daughter-in-law, Jessica, to find out what was happening.
That was when we learned that he was in such critical condition, that doctors didn’t expect him to survive. Needless to say, Jessica was almost hysterical and terrified that she was going to lose her husband.
I found myself automatically checking in with him intuitively, and was told he would be just fine. I worked with Jessica for a little bit to get her calmed down, then went to work on Darin remotely, myself.
Over and over again, I was told by my non-physical teams, “He will be just fine. Do not panic. Do not worry. Hold only positive thoughts for him.”
Somehow I found myself in pure peacefulness, despite the news and despite everything we were being told. At first, I kept checking in with myself to make sure I wasn’t just numbing out and detaching from it all.
I’m usually the one who quickly attaches and gets swept away by all the drama! But this time, it was my job to hold space for all the healing opportunities for him, as well as for the entire family. And that’s just what I did.
I reached out to my friends and community asked for prayers for his healing. I was absolutely blown away by the outpouring I received. Darius Barazandeh, Eram Saeed, and Shefali Burns, some of my telesummit hosts, all added Darin to their community’s prayer circles, effectively connecting with hundreds of thousands of people around the world.
Love and healing offerings began pouring in. Kimberly McGeorge sent a healing audio; hundreds of people in my community sent reiki and other types of remote healing modalities. The responses by people I knew and others who were “strangers” was deeply moving and almost overwhelming.
As the days went by, and there was no real change in his condition. I began to doubt myself, and to question the validity of the information I had received. I tend to be a bit impatient! And I wanted him awake and on the mend immediately!
However, I continued to do my healing work on him remotely, holding space for his ultimate outcome and also holding space for my husband and family to grieve and work through their own feelings.
About a week into his ICU stay, Darin suffered another setback. He started spiking a fever of about 103°F. More tests were run and we found that he had developed pneumonia! Apparently when he had his accident, he aspirated dirt from the road, as well as food and stomach acid from his own body. The result was a raging infection that required specialized IV antibiotics, suctioning his lungs and constant monitoring.
Things looked pretty dark – and still I was told, “He will be OK. Remain calm and continue holding space, and continue sending healing energies.”
Despite the drama paying itself out, I managed to remain centered and calm. I am not sure how I was able to do it. But I had a very clear knowing that he would come out of it.
Then, about two weeks after the accident, Darin started showing signs of waking up. We were cautiously elated, because we weren’t sure just how much damage his brain and body had suffered and what those effects would be.
At first, he was quite disoriented. He couldn’t talk because of the trachea tube they’d inserted to help with the pneumonia. He seemed to recognize Jessica, his wife, but was so exhausted he was only awake for moments at a time.
However, each day, those waking moments lengthened. Within a few days, the doctors did more tests and learned that he was strong enough to have the trachea tube removed, which allowed him to speak.
Throughout this time, I knew that my role was to stay as centered and peaceful as possible, while sending healing energy through me to him. Secondarily, my job was to hold the space for my family members, and help them work through their grief, fears and uncertainties.
The challenge for me as an empath is not getting caught up in the emotions of those around me. And this event was a true test of that!
What I was told by my non-physical teams was that staying out of the drama and holding the vision and space for Darin’s recovery was of paramount importance.
I accomplished this by meditation, daily prayer, and consciously checking in with myself throughout each day to monitor what my thoughts and feelings were.
It was fascinating to me to realize just how much of my husband’s and daughter-in-law’s fears and energies I was absorbing! I had to stop often and clear that fear for us all and purposely send it into the Light for transformation.
If I had allowed that energy to infect me, I could not and would not be able to continue to send healing energy and help Darin to the best of my abilities.
How many times have you experienced something very challenging in your life? And how many times have your gotten sucked into the energy of the circumstance, only to find yourself spinning and feeling helpless to do anything?
I can honestly say that that used to be my life. I would easily get caught up in the drama of the situation and then I would be unable to be as effective as I could have been.
Going through this experience has taught me a powerful lesson in allowing, not judging, and staying connected and centered. Was it easy? NO!
Was the outcome optimal? YES!
I also learned through this that when you are centered and grounded, Spirit can speak to you very clearly! I VERY CLEARLY was told he would be alright. For the first two weeks, I had remind myself that what appeared to be catastrophic was only temporary. And it was!
At the end of May, Darin was moved to a care facility where they coordinated his rehabilitation and managed his daily care needs until he was strong enough to do so himself.
Then about a week ago, he was released to go home! Talk about a miracle! The doctors didn’t hold out much hope in the beginning.
Darin still has quite a ways to go until he’s back to his original strength, but we are absolutely delighted with the progress that has been made so far. He’s already talking about getting back to work, and we have to remind him that this is his time to heal.
I admire his desire to be productive. And I also know from personal experience that it is imperative to allow yourself the time to heal, body, mind and soul from traumatic experiences.
If you are facing any kind of challenging experience, hopefully you can draw on my experience here.
Drop into your belly area, refuse to get drawn into the chaos and confusion of the moment, and start aligning with your SELF and with Source, so that you can receive clear guidance and direction.
That alignment will help you create miracles of all kinds in your life and the lives of your loved ones!
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