I think everyone loses at some time in their life. Whether it’s a job, their health, a pet, a lover, a parents/sister/brother/grandparent/loved, their innocence, or some other type of loss. It never feels good. It can be a very defining moment and can change the trajectory of your life forever.
Often, loss comes with losing some type on independence. If you lose a job, you lose your financial independence. If you have a significant health issue, you can lose your wellness independence, and have to depend on others for care and support.
If you suffer from depression, you know first hand how debilitating that can be. And like any other physical health issue, you may become dependent on others for your financial and physical support.
If you lose a loved one through death, separation, divorce, it can be both financially and emotionally devastating! And you wonder how on earth you can ever come back from the loss and grief.
Giving up independence doesn’t feel good. It can be scary and overwhelming. It can take weeks, months or even years to find your even keel again.
I went through those feelings, depression, and transitions in my own life in my mid-20’s when I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis. I lost my sense of self, my mobility, and over the years, parts of my body! “I can’t” became a big part of my vocabulary.
And when my husband of 17 years left me in 2017, it sent me reeling in pain, shock, betrayal and loss of everything I thought I knew. I wasn’t sure I was going to make it, let alone how I was ever going to survive. I felt my spirit crushed, spiraled into a major depression, and was still struggling with how to care for my aging, ill parents on top of watching not one, but two businesses implode from the fall out.
I wanted to give up, curl into a ball and die. But that isn’t me. And it really wasn’t an option. My self-worth shattered and my entire “reality” came crashing down. Perhaps you can relate?
What I’ve learned, though, is that you DO live. You make a choice. You have to make a choice. I made a choice. I wasn’t going to let that define me. I was not quite 60, and I still have at least 40 years to live! So there is NO WAY I was going down without a fight for ME.
But first, I had to grieve. I had to feel the pain. I had to feel my heart break. I chose to look at the beliefs that I believed about him, and me, and money, and business, and all the core, foundational things that I took for granted.
I had to go back and look at the abuses and traumas of my childhood and teenage years to find those pieces. It wasn’t much fun. But it was certainly enlightening!
I realized that I had built my entire life and identity on a very unstable foundation that truly did not support my life, moving forward. In fact, that emotional pain is what my whole body (the diagnosis of rheumatoid arthritis) was trying to tell me all along.
As the 2nd edition of my book, Quantum Soul Clearing – Healing the Scars Life Leaves on the Soul is re-written and updated, I’ll show you the science of what trauma does to the body and mind. And how that old wiring can be released, healed and re-wired for well being, health, real love, and prosperity.
What I love most about what I do for a living is teaching people how they can heal. Helping them see the old, hidden, stuck patterns, beliefs and traumas that keep them stuck, in pain, and unable to move forward. And once those patterns are revealed, we change them. We clear them and replace them with something new, healthy and strong! We create a whole new foundation for success, thriving and mastery!
What I’ve had to learn from years of “I can’t” is that I CAN. What I teach and show people is how they “CAN TOO”.
You may have a disability of some type. You may have limited thinking and beliefs that you don’t even know you’re running (I certainly did!), but what I love most about what I do is to help people know that they CAN. They can change. They can grow. They can survive and even thrive into a whole new reality. Even if you have had huge challenges! And believe me, I get it! I’ve overcome so much in my life. And if I can, you can too!
After the re-launch of my Quantum Soul Clearing Book, I’ll be working on a book about loss, grieving, and coming back stronger and healthier than ever. It won’t be out until mid-2021, but I’m excited to share my personal journey you and the world. Hopefully it will inspire you and others to choose to live life they best way you know how, and to learn to grieve your losses so you thrive in the end.
I’m so looking forward to this new year of 2020 and the new decade that is ahead. I’m excited about the possibilities for change and growth in my life. For what is possible. For being personally accountable for what I want to experience in my world. And to helping you, if you want the support. Together, we’ve got this!
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